4 ways to deal with a woman who loves money
26 January 2016, 16:34
Nairobi - When asked who the weaker sex is; the definite answer you
will get is women. I agree…. we are weak but only physically when it comes to
the real weakness that brings societies down; the men definitely take that cake.
Always! Just a glimpse of an ankle and man will move heaven and earth to find
out what goes beyond that ankle.
When he goes to find out what goes beyond that particular
ankle, his senses normally flee and that is how tasteless marriages are made.
Anyway, you are married as a man and you assumed that
particular habit that your wife had, spending frivolously, would end the minute
she became a wife. You assumed that she would become more responsible and
reliable the minute she was married and realized she should start thinking as a
parent for her child’s future. But not all women are like that and with yours,
nothing has changed. In fact, she has become worse because she now realizes
that your line of income is open to her too. It is not getting better but you
realize that as you two continue living together, it becomes worse. You keep on
picking her tabs and at times she does not contribute anything because she is
spent. She even depends on you on the littlest of things. A housewife can do
that, depend and if she is good with money; she can have her own expenses
account. But a woman who has a job and sinks deeper in debt and can’t pay her
own fare, that is a dangerous wife. So what do you do?
Access to you account
is a definite no
I know they said one flesh becomes one at the church but do
remember when you need rent, transport and other bills to be paid; the landlord
will not take flesh but cash. Marriage says you need to share but technically,
you are sharing by ensuring you all don’t go to the dogs. You just can’t give
your spendthrift wife access to your account or anything joint. She will milk
it and you will eventually have to run around looking for options because she
will be no help.
Do not open for her a
credit account or extend a line of credit for her
You are enabling her. You think you are pleasing her and
trying to make your marriage work but when your wife forgets about the relevant
bills and upkeep of the household for bags and shoes, you have a problem. If
she wants to keep buying and replacing furniture, or go to expensive hotels for
lunch and spas with her girls while you can barely afford it, that is a no.
Credit cards are a good idea but only for people who are good with them. You
will get the bill and have a heart attack.
Do not keep picking up
She spent all her money, you pay her fare. Her share of the
bills was water and electricity, they get cut off; you pay. You need to learn
to stay in black out so that she can harp on and learn that when she does not
do her part, she will not get a pulsing line from your end. That is just how
people learn to be good with money; when you do not keep bailing them out.
Just do point one to
three while dating
The minute you are dating, she is write in all the other
areas for you but has this problem, learn to put your foot down. I am not
saying be stingy; you can treat your girlfriend and do nice things for her but
you also need for her to know how to be responsible for herself. You solve the
problem without the long term. That way, by the time you settle down, she has
it all in hand.
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