4 types of men to avoid like the plague
15 March 2016, 16:28
Nairobi -I was really going to start with married man and I really
thought; that is not constructive advice because if I really have to tell you
that then I also don’t know what I am doing.
Liar, liar pants on
If you keep catching a man you are dating in very small and
petty lies, I will be the one to tell you that is a red flag. Someone who is
taking time to lie about small things that do not even matter is someone who is
going to mess you up. He is the type that will lie about his job, his work, his
pay, and everything he is doing-obviously that is a man you cannot plan a
future with. For example he will tell you because he knows that this is what
you would like to hear, ‘I have put a down payment for this house and I am planning
to move. We will be home owners.’ Ask yourself if you really own a house, so
you busy yourself with other things until that moment you are evicted and you
were secure that that was sorted.
The worst part is when you are not snoopy and you are going
for this trust thing in your relationships you will be shocked- very badly.
A mummy’s boy-Someone
who is too attached to his mother
There is nothing wrong with the closeness between a mother
and her child-even men liking their mothers and treating them well is a good
thing. The problem comes in when he is starting a life of his own and she is
the center of it-even when you come in.
As I keep watching Bi. Msafara woman on that after show on
Citizen I am starting to click that she might actually have sons and if she has
a daughter; that might be a far-fetched idea on my part. They were talking
about mothers-in-law and I imagined if my man introduced me to a mother who
spoke like she does, I would run for the hills if she was his center stage. I
can imagine dealing with Bi. Msafara for the rest of my life with a son of
hers; if we even went for a family holiday for a month- I would die! I don’t
take oppression very well. My mother told her mother-in-law to hire a help and
she would pay for it because every time they went to visit his mother she had
this idea that my mother was made for carrying firewood and water on the back
and blowing on that three stone fire to make a meal. They had to pipe the water
to the compound and they got the help which she paid for because she was not
into that wahalla business.
See how she compromised there; she refused but she paid for
other people to do it. So you don’t refuse and then fold your hands while his
mother is at the river-you will get a bad vibe. You refuse and look for an
A man set in his ways
I am not saying that you go into relationships with the idea
of changing someone but compromise will be very important in any relationship.
No two couples meet and they complement each other on
everything. That sync they have is because they had to work on it. If your man
is of the attitude, ‘Take me as I am.’ Be worried because he will continue
bouncing from club to club while you figure the family issues by yourself and
he will just say, ‘Take me as I am.’ Which you agreed to.
Be worried about a
man that you have to push to make a decision.
That idea of a man being the head of the family is just
about you being able to sit down with someone who will give you a way forward
when you need it.
You will eventually get tired of sitting on a man’s head if
that is what you like. I could start telling you about why women cheat with
their bosses but that is another story. You get the point though. Don’t get too
comfortable with a man who can never put his foot down where you are concerned.
It will get to you.
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