4 tips to dating the much 'older' person
11 December 2014, 19:23
Nairobi - Contrary to popular belief, not all people who date those
older than them are after their money. Just like everybody who has a type,
there are people whose type is that their partner is significantly older than
them. And most will try to deny that fact by chasing after people who just
leave them unsatisfied and just plain frustrated.
You will try to date partners
who are completely incompatible to you so that you can just please those who
are around you and not be a thorn on society’s hide by avoiding ‘talk’.
But either way people are always going to talk and being an
adult, you have to realize that you can make your own decisions especially when
it comes to relationships because in the end you are the one who is going to
have to live with that person. It may turn out to be a bed of roses or a bush
of thorns but at least yours.
When dating the older person, first things first,
a couple of rules to follow.
Age should never be an issue
If you find that you
are person that is constantly bothered by your partner’s age then you are on
the wrong boat. Constantly talking about age and wondering who will think what
turns out to be a bore and will obviously be a huge turn off for your partner.
If you cannot stomach sex with your older partner… you are
still in a wrong boat
People who are in a relationship with someone would like to
fancy that their partner finds them attractive. You cannot be in a relationship
and choose to be interested only when it suits you. Sex is part of the bargain
for most. If your partner is older they obviously chose you, the younger party
with the expectation that you would welcome it.
Have your own life
Unlike the younger partners, older partners do tend to have
more complicated schedules and would rarely have the time to meet you for the
ten o’clock coffee, lunch at one and still make dinner as well as have a movie
night. Have something to do outside
time with them, not just career wise but let a weekend
not have to be planned for them but friends too.
If you are one who
throws tantrums just because you do not get what you want then maybe you should
not be there. The older partner is obviously someone who has reached a certain
level of maturity with experience and age. If you come off as desperate,
emotionally unstable and one who easily gets fits, then that is a major turn
off. They would not spare time to try and sort you out but will just withdraw
and cut off contact.
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