4 things women must accept before getting married
29 March 2016, 19:32
Women must make some tough decisions before agreeing to get married. Here are some.
Be realistic with
For some women that are still traditional, she is hoping
that she will first have the wedding then maybe moving in so she really will
not know what it is like to live with this person. Problem that I have realized
with this is the kind of expectations that such women have that are not really
realistic. When it comes to household management, the type of household that
they will actually end up in, the type of help her man will give and support.
Some women are still in fairy land when it comes to happily ever after in
marriage. Expect that you will not have everything that you want and you might
probably have to re-evaluate your ideas and goals especially if your man was
never part of the planning.
Be ready to do a lot
Older couples get a handle of this and not because they are
older but because they have learnt it is very important over the years. To save
you the grief, be ready to do a lot of it. Most women do not like hearing this
because they get the impression that it will be the first steps to being a
doormat, not getting what you want and a man thinking he can take advantage. It
is so, in some cases actually and that is if you chose a completely wrong
partner for you. Compromise is important because it will determine the openness
that either one of you will always approach the relationship afterward.
It is just being a
wife, no one said you will be viewed less if you do and want to do some of the traditional
You know why I do not condone telling people your business?
Most of the time, you are talking to the wrong people and at times even though
the intentions are never foul, they may end up with negative impact for you.
Marriage is between the two of you. So if you want to cook for him, do so. If
you want to do some things you know some wives would never do, do it. Like who cares what they
think? You will be the one enjoying the results every time he enjoys that side
of you. But if you don’t do it or hold back because it is the new age, because
someone said it is not cool anymore, someone said doing so makes a man view you
less, you are in trouble. Do it and keep your mouth shut.
Be on the lookout for
Marriage killers-monotony, gossiping with wrong people about
your house, poor almost boring sex, the sexy side of you fading and the rest
you think of. When
you spot them, work on them as quickly as possible if your marriage matters to
you. Pushing them to the back of your mind will eventually come to bite you.
And in this age, you can easily be co-wifing with the snap of a finger.
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