4 things to consider in a new relationship
04 April 2016, 23:05
Nairobi - There are things one must consider in a new relationship. Here are 4.
The things that you
choose to compromise on in your relationship
Most people who are looking to get into a relationship know
what they want. They know what they want from the person that they are choosing
to be with. Things is, in the initial stages a lot of you bend over backward to
please the other person so that they can see that you are the one they want. I
am not mad at that even I would probably pull some tricks when it comes to
someone that I actually want. Then when the juju
is in full effect, the real you comes out with all the demands.
Make your demands early in the relationship so that someone
does not tell you that that is not what they signed up for later in the
relationship. Don’t wait until you have kids and start saying, ‘I have
always…..’ ‘I have never been…’ Put your cards on the table so that you actually
get what you want.
Don’t entertain any
type of disrespect that comes from the other person
That normally sets the tone for the rest of your
relationship. At times you can be sitting with a couple, you know this person
very well and you can clearly see that they are throwing darts at their better
half. To you, it is obvious that what
your friend is doing is not nice but you cannot step in to tell them what to do
in their relationship.
You as the partner are thinking, ‘This cannot be that
serious. So let me not create some drama.’ If you keep letting it go and
keeping quiet, the problem usually graduates into bigger issues. By the time
you are saying you are done, you have yourself to blame because you see them
treating the next person better. It is just you because it will be the same
with the next person as well. Watch what you eat because it shows. People have
a tendency to test you just to see how much you are willing to take.
Read the above text.
It is not your duty for you to manage someone’s temper. That
is a very huge load and someone that you decide to be in a relationship with
should know when not to cross the line with you. It is fine for them to express
their emotions; but if it hs nothing to do with you, they step out. If it is
because of something you did, they need to calm down before trying to confront
you because temper does go out of hand. When you keep making excuses for it,
you are enabling them.
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