4 things to avoid while dating
21 April 2016, 19:12
Nairobi - If you are seriously dating, hoping for a serious
relationship from that person, then yes, there are things you should refrain
from doing in order for you not to come off the wrong way. Obviously there are
people who date just for fun, others because they have nothing better to do but
not everyone is dating hoping for a serious relationship.
There are things you also just avoid doing because as long
as you are not the one for them, you don’t want to put in wasted effort. Wait
for someone to be yours then you go the extra mile for them.
Don’t go overboard
with the spending on your date
‘She never wanted me for me but my money.’ Well, yes because
you made the whole getting to know each other period about what you could do
for her. Men make this one mistake when
it comes to a woman they actually really want or really like. The conversation
is not flowing properly so you offer to take her for shopping because that will
make her happy. You want to see her smile so you pull that card. And some
women, who do not actually want you, know how to manipulate you in that way
until they come across fatter prey.
If someone does not want you from the beginning, let them
go. Your spending will only make them stick around for so long until they
eventually move on. Now you lose both a partner and your money. Take them out,
treat them well, but leave it at that until they make that commitment to you.
Don’t ‘pop up’ at his
house to cook and clean
Those wife duties.; the thing about them is that, they work
for some but for most; if he never liked your personality, your looks and
anything else you had to offer, that will not change. The only women it works
for are the ones that he knew from the get go it could work. Her personality,
looks, worked for him. Her washing the dishes only fast tracks the process.
Take whatever attitude a man gives you from the beginning
and work with that; force the relationship and you will be getting rough turns
in the relationship as well. Some women have never gotten this about men; he
can be single, he can even agree to be in that relationship but for most, it is
just pushing time until what he wants comes along. That is how a man dumps a
girlfriend of five years for someone he met a week ago. He was just keeping
busy; what is not to like about having a girlfriend that is on hand to cook,
clean and have sex instead of being single?
Let them invite you
to their functions don’t invite yourself
Inviting yourself to their family events, their work
functions or the meeting with friends; will make you look foolish when they
have a conversation with them and they say, ‘I don’t even know how to make
him/her stop. It is annoying and I don’t want him/ her.’ Just don’t invite yourself to their anything
until you get to know them better and they invite you. Don’t offer to alleviate
their boredom; let them go alone and be bored on their own. It is not your job
to be a clown. If they want you, they will know where to find you.
Don’t force to have a
relationship with their child (-ren)
This is in case you are dating someone that already has a
child or children. You do not have to show you can be a good babysitter or force
to have a good relationship with their child. This is how some people end up
getting used. Your desperation is showing, so next time this person wants to go
somewhere without you; they tell you it is something important and ask if you
could watch their child. They know they do not want anything to do with you and
they do not want a relationship but they keep you around because you are
proving to be a good baby sitter.
Commit to their brood when they commit to you. Otherwise,
get to know them first, see if there could be something there then the child
can come in.
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