4 things not to say on your first date
18 December 2014, 16:39
Nairobi - You go out on the first date, and you are thinking that
everything turned out quite well and you are already planning how the next date
is going to go but you never hear from your Mister again. So what went wrong?
There are things that you do or say on your first date that will make an
impression to the guy on whether you are worth the next round or a pass.
What you say: You have cheated before
Rule number one of most dates is never to go on and on about
your ex, but at times, it comes up and you are sked what went wrong. Even if
you did cheat, do not talk about it. Just put it off until a time comes when
you really have to be honest about it and your reasons for it; and this person
knows you well. Because rule of thumb is if you cheated before, you will cheat
again and someone does not want to enter a new relationship worrying about a nobody being a somebody.
What you do: Being too desperate, needy and available
There is a reason people do play hard to get. No one wants
to end up with a person who was just bored at the moment, needed a fling or was
tired of being single. No one wants to deal with such emotional upsets because
desperate people are only in it for the first few moments of fulfillment up
until something new comes up and they have filled the void. And also, men do like a chase, if you are not
it then you steal the thunder from him
What you talk about: The ex, your miserable life, your boss
There are those people whom life has picked on and they live
a miserable existence. Worst part is, they never stop talking about it and they
want to share the misery with anyone who comes into contact with them. If you
are on a date, then there is no quicker way to send the guy packing. Because
guess what, he has an awful time too at times and he goes out with you to find
something that is enjoyable and fun so as to take a time out from all that.
How you act: Rude and impolite/ your need to be pampered
How you act with the people providing you a service when he
is around will clue a guy in on your character. If you are one with outrageous
demands and discourteous then that is how he will see you treating him when he
does something for you.
If you are one, who goes out expecting to eat in a
restaurant which serves dinner with five fork and ten spoons all the time, then
guess what, you are also out. Because believe it or not, the wealthy get tired
of that arrangement too. If he cannot relax with you, then there is no reason
why he should continue seeing you either.
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