4 things men hate about women
22 January 2016, 19:35
Nairobi - There are things men are always unhappy about coming from women. Always!!
Someone’s paycheck is theirs and you have no right to demand
its contents. It is boundaries; it is their money from their hard work. You can
snoop and they better not find out but you cannot keep pushing for it unless
you suspect they are not good with money
You can also not force someone to take care of your family
if they do not want to. That African tradition, ‘you marry me you marry us’,
has ruined a lot of marriages and a lot of women’s happy homes. Making demands
on your spouse’s money because your family wants it, forcing them to lie, then
when they buy something for themselves you get mad; will ruin your marriage
You can cajole it out of him but not force it out of him.
You create a bad atmosphere for your marriage.
Their bank account
You can never win with this one. Also a boundary and
everyone is testy with it because no one likes explaining themselves like they
are still children. As a married couple, all you need to know is someone is not
going to force you down the drain eventually.
You can champion for a joint account with legitimate explanations but
you cannot force someone to tell you about their money. They can just lie, open
another one or have more than one and give you the one they are least worried
about. You end up creating worms when you force someone to tell you about their
When you are on a date or you are married and your spouse
makes a production out of receiving a phone call or sending a text; then you
should be worried. If they are always updating their password or pin, you
should indeed be worried because they obviously have something to hide.
But if you go looking for something, then you will
definitely find it. On the other hand, if you go looking and you do not find
anything then they better not find out because it is a breach of trust and
boundaries in a relationship. You will also shift suspicion to yourself because
it will now be, ‘what are you hiding, that you think I am hiding!’
We don’t go through people’s phones.
Showing up at
someone’s house uninvited
This is a tactic used by a lot of women; to spend a weekend
with the man they fancy. Show up and cook him dinner to show your wife material
skills. Show up to ensure he has no other women around. Just show up. You will
in the end, end up looking desperate especially if he had his ‘boys’ around.
Such a bad picture to portray on the first day you meet them and make it more
awkward by sticking around and not making excuses then leaving because you
obviously came at a bad time.
Don’t go to someone’s house uninvited or without the proper
arrangements especially if you are not that serious in a relationship. Because
you are going to do what you want and still go, if you find his sister, family
(the ones you truly know not the one’s he might have lied about) or the boys;
do make excuses and leave.
To finish if you suspect someone has a wife or another
woman; or in a man’s case- married with a husband and children or playing you
off against another man; then by all means ensure your security and go through
everything. Find out and move on because they obviously are not serious!
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