4 signs he is hiding something
25 January 2016, 16:50
Nairobi - There are a lot of things a person can do besides getting themselves in that 9month situation in order to convince you that they are actually the one.
That is how you end up hearing the line, ‘I did not know they could turn out to be like this…’
They did not turn but the mask was now pulled off as they have gotten what they actually wanted from you. They just camouflaged and played along to what you wanted to convince you they were the right people for the job.
Having an idea of what your expectations are in a partner is a good thing but letting some people know can be quite dangerous. You need to keep quiet and play along to whatever role they choose to reveal to you because when some people ask you, ‘what do you like in your wife/husband; your man/woman?’ They will most definitely oblige if you are the target of their desires.
You have never actually had an argument
Any one’s true colors usually come out when they are having it out with you. A partner who agrees with everything you say, does what you want to do and never raises their voice because they are being submissive or pleasing is not a good sign. If you are looking for a doormat, then that is fine. On the other hand, that pleasing picture might just be that, a picture. Wait until they get the ring then you will see what they are actually like.
They like to colour their facts
If your intuition tells you something they keep saying and repeating is not what it is, then listen to your guts. Someone who likes to create a pretty picture of where they come from or lie about past relationships or what they actually do; give yourself a pause. That is what you will be dealing with forever-their lies and tales!
You have only met that one friend or two but never the group
People do not like spending time with their partner’s circle but you would save yourself a lot of grief if you just saw them in their element. Coy and very charming-lies! People are loud and laugh and do crazy things when they meet up. If you see them sitting subdued and prim and proper; you are being set up. When you leave; that is when the real T goes down.
They go out of their way to be ‘wifely’ or show proper ‘husband’ material
Someone can do but I will bet you there are those times people lapse or have an argument because they just don’t feel like. If you have someone who is always ready to wait on you hand and foot, never complains or argues when you tell them to wash, clean and cook every single weekend; you are being set up. They want to please you so bad now, so that they can hook you in; the complaints about wanting a house help and upkeep will come in when they are settled into your house. What will you do then after that million shilling wedding? Refuse? You will oblige because the idea of another such wedding after a divorce with this one gives you a migraine.
Real girlfriends will always have a reason to negotiate with you or argue with you because of housework and they will ask for something in return. Real boyfriends always have a problem with buying a purse or shoe no matter how much money they have. They will always complain. Someone who never complains with you is buttering you up real nice and setting you up so well; when you finally marry they will pay you back with demands and expenses.
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