4 things girlfriends should not do
21 March 2016, 18:03
Nairobi - A friend in need is a friend in deed; but… (You know I was
going to add a but) to what extent?
The following are things that I think woman to woman; you
should not expect from your friend. You will be making the friendship hard for
her and very uncomfortable. Obviously I do not know what your friends do or
what you do for each other but this is just a guide in case you are getting
confused, you might be putting your friend in a position she does not want to
be in. She is finding it hard to tell you because you might have given the
impression she ‘owes’ you. Or because you have quoted, ‘A friend in need is a
friend in deed’.
Ask her to lie for
you because you are cheating
I would point this out for married couples but the ones in a
serious relationship are also included. A woman is itching to raise her hand
and say, ‘…but that is what men do.’ Yes, that is what men do, maybe! It still
does not mean you should as well and drag somebody in who might not want to be
a part of it.
Obviously you are not going to come up and tell me but you
will tell your man you are with me or we are headed somewhere together. Problem
comes in when he shows up at my place or calls me and asks me where you are and
now because I had no idea of what you were up to, we all end up looking
Good girlfriends keep their cheating to themselves and don’t
bring the rest of us into sinning. We do not want to lie to someone we know is
good to you because it makes us feel worse. We can debate about the one that is
a proverbial ‘dog’ but someone who is good to you? Keep the cheating to
yourself and don’t include your girls in the lying.
Tag her along for
Up there is lying but then there is the one that does the
most. You tell your man you are going somewhere with your friend but because
your man is also an FBI agent, you bring her a long to your little escapades
for cover. Just in case your man drops in, you can just as easily present your
friend and say, ‘See, told you I was here with her!’ Your friend has to put a
hold on her own things to help you preserve your marriage or relationship.
Worst friend is the one that hypes you up about going somewhere together, then
you reach there and a man comes a long and they smile cunningly together
because you were and still are out of the loop.
A child is raised by
a village but some women take it too literally
See, babysitting is fun and is kind of cool, on your off
days. Like when you have your planned parenting and birth control on point
because you know what you are doing. So when I see my single parent friend
struggling, you help on that one day because you are idle but then the friend
picks up from there and decides it could be a thing. She brings the kid over on
your weekends while she goes and parties. Have a care for a friend’s generosity
my dear because next time she will not pick calls assuming that you are already
at her door. That is how friendships become strained.
Money, money, money
is always a problem
No matter how long you have been friends, if you borrow
money, give it back. If you are in a bind and the friend helps, give it back.
Don’t keep saying you will pay it back and never do. Don’t think she is stupid
every time you go out and say you forgot your purse. She will eventually get
tired. I don’t play with my money like that, I am not rich. I had a friend that
asked for a lifter to help her buy her man a really expensive watch. I believed
that it was going to come back because you see, when someone is buying
something expensive you are like, ‘they have their affairs in order.’ It never
did get back, so one time she asked me to carry a pair of heels for her until
she could come get them. Next time she asked me for the shoes and I told her
baldly, ‘Bring my money, then you can have the heels.’ She has the money; she
is just messing with me because she thinks I have spare change for handouts so
I am playing with her as well.
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