4 things a woman MUST never hide
16 September 2015, 14:10
Nairobi - There are things a woman should never shy from telling her man.
If you need help ask for help
As women we are always confused by the actions of men. I am
always confused. If you are independent, and not asking for anything, you are
an underdog feminist who is going to step on his toes if he gets into a
relationship with you. If you never buy your own drinks and are always waiting
for someone to sort you out; you are not woman enough to be his woman. Now
which one is it? I am still yet to figure it out but if you are in a
relationship and someone is calling himself your man then you have the right to
ask; he can deal with his own thoughts while you get a better weave.
What your problem is
When you are mad about something or they did something and
it annoyed you. At times your boyfriend/ husband says or does something but he
does not think he stepped off the mark. In your mind you are thinking I hope he
is planning an apology party. In his mind he is thinking, ‘now what did I do
If you do not like something then say it
Probably you are thinking he should know or figure it out.
You are thinking that men are supposed to know or should know. You want
something in your relationship to change or improve but you are keeping quiet
and being passive aggressive about it. You need to learn to open your mouth a
voice out things that you do not like; utterances, a tight fist,
over-indulgence, abuse or formed habits. How will someone change or improve
something if you do not point it out? Just be blunt.
Be blunt about what you expect from him
No not on the first date or any consecutive dates; should be
when you have settled into something with him. Neither is it with the guy you
are having a virtual relationship with. You can just be there, thinking how you
would like to have this number of children, live in this type of neighbourhood
and not the one you currently live in, go to certain places and any other
personal issues. Just say it because he is thinking you are happy with where
you guys are and is not WORKING toward what you want. He is putting in F effort
because he sees you like F but you want A and it needs A effort but it is not
panning out because he is still on the F.
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