4 things a man will not tell a woman
03 February 2015, 18:10
Nairobi - Most women, upon hitting puberty had that guy or man that
would make our heads spin and feel like we would go to the ends of the earth to
be with him. There is a book by Sherry Argov on ‘ Why men like bitches’ which
is a must read for a lot of women , mostly those who define themselves
according to relationships they are in or they men they want to be in that
That is why there are a lot of situationship to go around.
Just because, a woman somewhere is holding a torch for a man who is busy
chasing someone else.
There are a few life lessons that women as well as girls can
learn from that book that will change their thinking, if they are wise enough
to follow the advice.
There is a reason why there is that saying that goes,’ for
every man, there is a woman and the opposite applies’. Technically what this
just means is that, whatever tricks you apply on him some other woman has tried
before you and just like you, if he does not want you, you will stay in the
back burner until his something better never comes up. Thinking that telling
him you love him as no other woman ever has, is already a fail for you when he
is clearly not holding the same when it comes to you because as long as you are
making a situationship comfortable for him, he will not be the one to rip that
band aid away unless he has got what he wants.
Having a job does not make you a prize
You are in a situationship thinking that because you have a
job and can take care of yourself, that that man will appreciate you more
because other girls are not doing the same. In your head you are thinking that
at least you are not prostituting yourself for money so that places you a notch
above the rest. Wrong, when you are over 30million people in a country, I am
sure a man can come up with a few from his past and his present that hold even
more jobs to support their families as well.
Mothering him will not make you a prize
He got stuck on rent, so you helped out. He got into a car
accident,and did not have enough on him so you helped him cover it. He is in
the hospital, so you ran to visit. He will be appreciative, but if he did not
want you as girlfriend before chances are you still are in the same category he
placed you in before.
Having sex with him does not make you a prize
A lot of women cheat themselves that since they are now
intimate with the man that he sees them as the girlfriend, yet he really has
never given them the title. If he has not said you are his girlfriend then
chances are that you are in a friends with benefits type of situation.
Being his house help will not and does not make you a prize
Doing his chores for
him, rather than letting him call the cleaning lady still leaves you in a loop.
Because what he is thinking is, at least he will have extra money for the
drinking binge this weekend. If not
that, he is worried you have no life outside of him and he has to entertain
Uttering the words of affection and adoration to him, does
not make a man suddenly realize that you are the one for him. Or that what he
did not see about you before is suddenly clear. It does not work like that,
because at the end of the day, just like the various parts of his life and how
he categorizes them, a man also categorizes his women. The fling, the needy
one, the one-night stand, the one he calls when he is bored, the one who does
chores for free, the one that got away and the one that he really wants. Is
just yo as the woman to put your emotions aside and think logically what
category you fit in.
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