4 things I would never do for love
08 October 2015, 15:30
Nairobi - What would I do for love? What would I not?
Sacrifice myself for someone else
Women tend to forget to take care of themselves because we
are apparently meant to be nurturing and caring. We never realize how much of a
shell we create within us while we are at it. They come in portions and they
are progressive such by the time you realize it, you have nothing else to give.
There is a very small pool of people that should ever put
you in a situation of such or any type of sacrifice: your children, your
husband only if he is one of the good guys, a small fraction of your family
that actually has ever been there for you and the odd friend or two. The other
people should mentally get your middle finger. People are only in love with how
much of a need they have for you in their lives, take it out and see how first
they disperse. Do not sacrifice yourself cheaply and needlessly, do it for
those who matter.
Fight for the/ a man
There is a saying; ‘you can never keep a man that does not
want to be kept!’ It is not hard to decipher. It is pretty simple. If he is
your husband or boyfriend, that is because he wants to be. If he is a man that
is showing you he has choices and you are not his priority. Let him go. You are
not in love with him but just love the idea of loving him. You love someone who
is yours not someone you have to haggle for or someone who ever puts you in
that situation for you to fight for him like a prized bull.
Quit a job
We love our men, don’t we? We just love the men that we end
up marrying and it is for this reason that a lot of women get hooked into the,
‘stay at home and take care of the children’ line. There are so many ways to
look at this; your finances, the lifestyle you live/ want to live and how much
your career matters to you. Then make your decision. If you are not comfortable
with this, then do not do it to please someone. That is compensating not
compromising because it reaches a point and the same one who told you to quit
now wonders why you have nothing to do with yourself.
Be a fool
As a woman you need to know how to be classy, sophisticated
and poised. There are just some things that should never get the best of
you. Actually nothing should ever get
the best of unless it is a funeral, then you are allowed. A woman will drive
you to anger, a man will drive you to insanity and some drama, money will
create confusion, alcohol will create a fool and your child will test you. How
you handle your life will show your level of maturity. You do not have to be
perfect but people do not need to see you being brought down. They enjoy it and
they like having opinions.
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