4 signs your relationship is out of control
16 February 2016, 13:38
Nairobi - Control is not when you completely dominate your partner or
shout louder in order for them to scramble and do your bidding. Control is not
when you can’t speak against your partner because you are afraid of them or
their ensuing action. These are the wrong types of control in a relationship
where one person stays because they feel indebted to another person or they
cannot do better so they put up with whatever.
Only one person is continuously gaining in the relationship
and it is not you. You keep rushing to fulfill the other party’s demands. You
don’t even have discussions on compromise but you just do because you do not
want them to leave or you are afraid of them leaving you for someone else.
You cannot speak your mind in the relationship
A person who has no control in their relationship cannot
speak up against their partner. They just agree with everything either to avoid
a big blow out or not get too confrontational because they are always loosing.
They do not want to suffer any silent treatment from the other partner because
that is what usually happens. The other partner always gets their way and it is
because of how they always react whenever something happens.
Using manipulation to get your way
In order for something to happen for you, something drastic
also has to give. You either sulk or
ignore them in order for them to give in. You have to cry to win any arguments.
There is silent treatment if they do not give in and they have to reward you to
get back to your good graces. If this keeps happening in your relationship, it
is on a short leash and it will eventually snap.
Your partner easily threatens you
You are not secure in a relationship with the other person.
They are constantly reminding you of who they can leave you for because they
want them. They tell you if you do not
do this, they will go out and do it with someone else or someone else will
easily do it for them. Basically; what you will not do, they do not hesitate to
remind you they have someone in line waiting to do it. So you do it because you
do not want to be relationship-less.
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