4 signs you should leave him now
05 April 2016, 21:00
Nairobi - It really is confusing when you are not sure whether you
should stick around or your leaving means that you gave up too easily. Most
couples at the moment are in even worse situations because they thought, ‘I
don’t want to give up too easily’ yet that relationship was dead because there
was nothing else to work out.
When the both of you
are tired, that relationship is dead
You do not want any more confrontations; you are even at
that point that in order to avoid anything you just agree that you were wrong.
You do not argue not because you are in love or love is still there but because
you are tired. That effort that was previously put into trying to make the
relationship work is no longer there. You have reached that point where you
just do not care.
That is a relationship that is draining you, you are yet to
realize it but even when you are battling in silence, you are being eaten from
the inside. You would rather leave now than wait for a bigger blow up or stare
contests when the kids are no longer there.
You talk but you do
You are having a conversation yes but you don’t know anything.
You have the mundane, ‘How was your day.’ ‘The kids have a function….’ ‘I am
travelling next week back home so you will need to be around…’ You are no
longer talking like spouse but like business partners and the urge to actually
want to open up and have a real conversation is not even there. When you lose
interest in your partner’s life and do not even want to know, that is a red
When on the other hand, you miss it and want to revive that
part of the relationship. You should try and if they are open to it then you
two do have something to work on. On the other hand, if they are disinterested,
your relationship is no longer the same. You might be working on your own which
is a bad sign.
The things that
attracted you to them are starting to annoy, irritate and grate on your nerves
You start noticing those small habits and mannerisms they
had. Once you thought they were cute. At some point, they never did bother you
but now, they repulse the hell out of you. You do not want them to do it around
you and if they do, you get so annoyed, you ask them, ‘not so kindly’ not to do
it. They are quickly becoming a turn off for you.
You are thinking of
Maybe how much fun a lunch date was, or maybe how you really
want to text that colleague even though your spouse is watching television
right beside you, you cannot wait to go to work so you can talk to that person.
Your relationship might just be done especially if it is approaching an
intimate and physical territory with someone else.
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