4 signs you are ready for marriage
14 April 2016, 00:04
Nairobi - I don’t know what is wrong with my social feeds but every
time I am on them, I just see babies. I have always liked babies but I have
always known that I was never ready for them. Until recently, I have to admit.
I think it is time but wait. You just don’t jump in there; let us first find
the right man for the job; can’t be having babies with people who do not want
to be parents or with people who are not meant to be parents. You have to be
careful with such a decision in order for you to get the right results.
You become more
conscious about other people other than yourself
When you get married, you sort of lose ‘you’. It will become about your kids, it will be
about your spouse, their family and what is best for them. Normally all the
decisions you make, you will have to sit down and think of how it will affect
them and not just you. Want a new job out of town? Who will look after your six
month old? You want to quickly move up the ladder; you might end up
compromising family. His mother or her mother needs a place to stay; some of
your salary takes some of the heat and they might not like you but your
feelings take a back seat. It is their parent. That is just how marriage works.
You know you are ready for it when you can think of other people other than
When you have to make
a list before even spending your money
This one is the truth. Just wait until you are an adult and
you are getting money-no matter how small or big the amount. You will sit down
and make a budget then as you go through the list, you use the elimination
process. What can wait, and what cannot; especially if it is just about your
expenses and no one else’s. You learn that and you are one step ready to have a
family. As long as you are not smart
with money, you are not ready to settle down-in my opinion!
You can handle chaos
It is called home management for a reason. Your work will be
chaos, your home will be chaos, your life will be chaos-everything will be
chaos. You can hire people but it will still be chaos. If you easily get broken
down and stressed, then you are not ready. You cannot go mental every time
things do not work out your way. Just think; it could be worse. Once you learn
how to use that phrase then you are ready.
The relationship you
are in makes you the best you have ever been
Don’t get married to someone that makes you question
everything, yourself, your values and you basically compromise yourself just by
being with them. That is not the right recipe for marriage and family. Try a
better foundation if you are yearning for a good outcome. There is no problem
with waiting as long as this one is not working.
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