4 signs you are in an immature relationship
11 August 2015, 16:12
Nairobi - I have seen a couple of things in my prime years and
relationships between husband and wife or boyfriend and girlfriend have always
held a slight fascination for me. Maybe it is because I am yet to understand
commitment. In my knowledge, commitment to the wrong things in life equals
being miserable. Commitment to the wrong person also equals misery yet that is
what this people in marriages and relationships do. From a young age, I just
never aligned myself to sticking with miser, I rebel against it. Especially
when I can change it.
On the other hand, it also fascinated me because I wanted to
be in one. Just so, I can have someone to annoy. It is slightly amusing when
one minute you are having a conversation over locking the door, and it soon
escalates to why someone is always late in the night and then it goes to
sleeping arrangements. From 0-100 real quick, no plot. Just two people who end
up not making sense because they ended up together. Relating to the opposite
sex, and on a personal level can be very amusing if you do not overthink it.
Being in a relationship, or being married does not mean you
are mature. Just look around you and you will understand what I mean.
You two have been together for years but the slightest sign
of a bad situation and you both call it quits. Only to ruin it after a month or
a week by getting back together. It is a never ending cycle for the both of
you. Your way of solving anything is getting away from the other person and
forgetting about it. Only to have something else to argue about next time. It
is even worse when the two of you are married and the kids have to keep
shuttling in that confusion. In that time, you might have also been seeing
other people because you were allegedly separated and could do what you want.
Getting back at the
Have you ever seen that relationship where one person doss
this and the other has to ‘revenge’. Then when they are done, they are back at
it. Relationships are about wanting the best for your partner but these one
skipped that class. They are out to sabotage each other. In family, finances,
in their work, you name it and they will find a way to ruin it.
Lack of communication
It can ever be stressed enough the importance of
communication in any relationship/ marriage. When they say marry your best
friend, they basically mean marry someone whom you can be open with. We all
know some of our best friends would make lousy partners, so they do not
literally mean that. Immature couple, cannot talk to each other even about
simple things, they just end up hitting a brick wall. They just bicker, bicker
You cannot come to a
In efforts to make this work you decide that this person
handles this and the other that. No one interferes with the other ones
decisions. You only come to realize how trickier it is when you have a family
and it is no longer the two of you. When you both try to come together to
discuss anything it just creates tension because you cannot think together.
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