4 signs you are forcing a relationship
06 January 2016, 12:52
Nairobi - Are you forcing a relationship?
If you have to keep
giving ultimatums, you are forcing it
Having to bark orders every time you need something in order
for them to stop and ask what you need. They can just never do it because they
want to or chose to but because you have to keep scolding them for them to do
it. For example dates, if you want to go somewhere you have to ask and keep
reminding them so that they do not forget about you in their ‘busy’ schedule.
You have to keep bringing up past issues to justify your current situation.
Your relationship is more like one person is being pulled by the other all the
If there is an
acceptable explanation for every disappointment then you are forcing it
You help them come up with an excuse every time they mess up
or disappoint you. They are late for dinner because the workload has gotten
bigger for them. They cannot make time to see you because they barely have the
time so you will just settle for the crumbs when they get around to it. They
cannot go to this event with you because they need that rest from a hectic work
week. Until you even just stop asking but are more satisfied with the idea of
being in a relationship other than breaking it off and waiting for someone who
will give you what you need.
You have to create a
situation for them to pay attention
A forced relationship is a one –sided relationship; meaning
that unless you pinch the other person and remind them that you are around they
will barely take notice. Your tantrums, scolding or drama is the only way you
can get a reaction out of them where you are concerned. That is not a
relationship you should appreciate being in but be worried of what is making
You are always
playing catch up to their pace
If they feel like doing it, they will. If they do not feel
like doing it, they won’t and at the end of the day they could care less if
they informed you or not. You are the one that has to keep asking about plans,
calling to check on them and what they are doing. You get the picture. This is
the equivalent of chasing someone who does not care to be caught by you.
You can easily confuse going after what you want with if it
is meant to be it will be. You can go after it but if it is blatantly showing
you that it does not want it to be you then leave it alone. It is clearly
saying it was never meant to be despite you trying to catch it.
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