4 signs that a woman is too needy
17 February 2015, 18:53
Nairobi - I was having a conversation with a friend of mine and
discussion of a mutual friend’s disappearance ensued. It is not that she is
missing in criminal terms but she has been missing in action for quite a while
now. Not because she is busy with her life, more like busy being with her
boyfriend. A lot of us have that friend
who is always looking for you when she has nothing better to do but as soon as
a man pops up in her life she goes MIA.
Do not get me wrong, I have nothing against being in love,
in a relationship or a woman being in love. But where a lot of women get it
wrong is when they are too much in love that they turn it into being in need.
In the end that becomes the man’s baggage because when he wants some alone time
from the burnout of tending to her she starts coming up with reasons why. Maybe
he is cheating, or he does not like you anymore, or he is doing something
underhanded (I am sure you can come up with the rest because I am out). Sometimes he just wants space.
Men like being the knight in shining armor for a woman, they
also like an independent woman though. Do not confuse having needs with being
needy. When you have needs, you have the option of being able to take care of
them yourself but you can get stuck at times that is when your man can step in
and want to rescue you. On the other
hand, being needy is when you have no clue of how to take care of your
business. You always need someone to step in.
A needy woman is
The one who wants to see her boyfriend but he
has to send her Kshs 200 (M-Pesa saves lives) first in order for her to come
and see him. Isn’t that not romantic?
The one who will give him space this weekend or
allow him to spend time with the boys. But first, let him send her some money
for drinks and taxi so that she can go for a night out with the girls. Isn’t
She wants to buy him a present, but first let
him give her a few shillings so that she can save up since she is jobless, then
she can afford it. She is so wise she is helping him be able to afford his own
present that she will hand him.
She wants to call him today, but first let him
send her credit so that she can call.
Like I said, do not confuse having needs with being needy
and do not a relationship into a drug. You have to admire a lot about men
because when they get into relationships, they never change their routine. He
is still going to see the boys, he is still going to go to the barber on Sunday
and he is going to call when he has the time and not itch when the phone is
silent. Women on the other hand, cancel appointments, text the man to death
even when he is not replying, re-arrange their life so that she can have more
time with him and basically go MIA just because Henry from Finance asked her
for a date. They have not gone out yet by the way.
When the man is not
around her life comes to a standstill and that was the course of our
discussion. My friend and I knew that as soon as her man starts flying (he is a
pilot not a bird) she will soon have time to see us again.
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