4 signs he is playing games with you
05 August 2015, 18:33
Nairobi - Since we like talking about wife material, I decided to talk about husband material too. Give my two cents on some of the Kenyan men I have come across.
Understand, I am not going to go for the normal things that we normally talk about. Let me talk about the ones we do not want to talk about because they are embarrassing. Or we do not share for the fear of looking stupid.
The one that shoves you off the bed after sex
If the man you are with has ever done that, he is not the one for you. Move out of the bed and never look back. That man is clearly telling you that he does not give two cents about you, where you will go at three in the morning and whether you are safe. It is not the time to be independent and show you can take care of yourself. It is good that you can but a man that is a keeper is the one that makes sure of it and goes the extra mile to assure your comfort. Even if it numbs half of his body.
The one that does not offer you his place …ever!
Maybe you were stranded at the middle of the night. It happens. Or maybe the landlord had the nerve to put a strange lock on your door. Or maybe you just needed to be at his place. Have you ever tried to delay a date with your boyfriend in efforts of him offering you his place and it never happens? He is the one that will tell you to call a certain friend. He is the one that will switch off his phone after the first call and lie the next day how his battery died. If he is a fling, keep it that way. Look for a man that has no qualms about you spending some time at his house.
He has never treated you out
Even if he is the one that offered to take you out. You still split the bill. He is the one that will ask you where your half is. Or stretch out the palm of his hand. By all means, have some money on you always for such dates. When you are in a relationship, it is your boyfriend and he has never, not once given you a treat; by all means put that money on the palm of his hand. But, plan how you are breaking off. It will not change when you are married and it will not change after a long term. You will become his stay at home wife. If you want an outing, set it up yourself. Take your kids too. He will catch up if he can.
He has a schedule for when you can see him
Even when it is a surprise. Surprise him on the schedule he gave you. Do not have your own dates that do not match the calendar he gave you. That should ring alarm bells because there might be two more of you with their own schedules.
This is a sign of someone who will never have time for you especially in an emergency. Or when you need someone to talk to, namely your ‘boyfriend’.
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