4 signs he is not the one for you
15 December 2015, 12:27
Nairobi - Chasing or forcing a relationship with someone? I have just
the right type of medicine to cure you of that ailment and make you disease
free. If you want it!
You will never make it work with someone who does not see
things the way you do. I am not talking about opposites attracting; that is
different. This is more like you want to be somewhere different than they want
to be in a few years. Something like you value marriage; they see it a gimmick-
that is why a lot of couples are stuck in situationships not sure whether to
end it or be bitter about wasted years. You thought they would change but they
haven’t. They do not agree with the way you want to raise the kids or the
lifestyle you want. They believe in stay at home wife, you believe in career
woman and empowerment- they will not change their mind, it is a conditioning.
So before you force someone into something, ask yourself if you are ready to
deal with their demands. They might agree but have conditions that will anger
you in a few years. You are happy to get what you want for now then be angry in
a few years because the phase has passed.
You want to change them or they keep trying to change you in the name
of making you better
It has always been that timeless red flag that most couples
choose to ignore under the assumption that that person just wants the best for
them. You cannot make someone better if they do not want better for themselves
and you can also not make someone fit into your criteria and ideal. You will
end up being disappointed and you will end up making them feel bitter and
resentful when they eventually just don’t make it work.
They condescend to you
Just listen to the way someone talks to you and you will
understand what I mean when someone condescends to you. When they talk to you
it is as if they know what you want for yourself better than you actually do. They
snicker when you make suggestions and giving you one that is deemed as more
appropriate to your/ the problem. It is disrespect but more underdog that makes
you doubt yourself. Then they give you a pat on the back like a good little
child for listening.
They don’t share your pride in your accomplishments
It is either too small for them to actually celebrate or
take notice or it is not as much of a big a deal as you make it out to be. They
have done bigger and greater things or they have done nothing at all and make
you feel like you are being too excited over nothing. Yours is nothing and they
will never encourage you but be pessimistic.
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