4 relationships MUSTS in 2016
01 January 2016, 15:56
Nairobi - Can you imagine there are some people that have made their
third year or maybe even second year mark but yet they are still feeling
frustrated because it is not quite how they had pictured it. You ushered in the
New Year last night together; maybe even sat down for a talk on the things that
you two will change to make it better. The problem with this is that it is not
the first time otherwise you would not be this unsure or worried if it will actually
Let me tell you what; I will give you simple rules/
guidelines to achieve what you want.
Make a list, and then look at the person you are with and make a
comparison of what is on the list and them
Your case is different, unlike a lot of people who have no
clue as to what they want, you do. But then you got into this relationship
thinking that compromise is not a bad thing. Then you later told yourself how
you could change them, or the relationship would make them change to the tune
you wanted but that is not happening and has not happened.
That is the problem with most relationships that are doomed
to fail it might not be now but it will happen. If the person you are with now
is the same as they were, then there is nothing you can do that will make them
into what you want- ever! It is either you leave them and look for what you
want to actually really get or you stay and live with what you are getting
now. It is never that complicated. You will think of all the blood and sweat
and turmoil but just because relationships are hard work it does not mean you
carry stones the whole time. If you choose to do just that, don’t turn around
and be resentful because you were afraid of what would happen if you let go of
You will have to be clear-headed enough to know that you will have to
let go of some people and some habits
It is not just about the other person but you as well. Some
things you do might be the reason you repel the kind of love and wanting that
you want in a relationship. Your circle can also be a turn off. Bad advice has
never sounded better than when coming from ill-reputable people. You go out of
your way to look for the best qualities in your future partner but what will
make them want to share them with you? If you did not have a good answer, then
there is your answer.
Falling off the wagon
The worst relationship alliances, liaisons, bad decisions
and regret is usually around February especially for the women. It is only
around 40 days away. You can imagine the number of single women that are
vulnerable to a touch, a few whispered words on fidelity and commitment, and
false promises of love because the man also knows V-day is around the corner.
Soon enough you let go of the list and say, you are willing to work it out and
that is how the year ends with someone in a weird love triangle, funny situation, a circus ring in her
head and a love that is not panning out as she hopes it would.
Have something else to do
I am not saying you give up and focus all your energies on
other things because avoidance only works temporarily until you are home alone
and back to over thinking. Just have something else going on so that you do
not put too much credence on your failures. But if you make the mistake of
trying to make a plan with timelines, you will keep getting frustrated.
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