4 reasons your man is distant
13 April 2016, 20:41
Nairobi - There are some couples when you watch them, you can tell
that they have a really close bond. In that, they are open with each other. How
can some women do that and you cannot? For a lot of women they complain that
their men are not emotionally in touch with themselves.
What I will tell you is this; there is not one solution to a
problem. People are different. It can be that, that is just the way he is, the
way he was brought up, but it does not have to necessarily mean that your man
is dealing with emotional trauma. At best, you can improve it or the situation
but how you approach it is what matters.
Thing is, most women do not know tact and that is what
causes for a man who was previously engaged with you, to pull back. Men take
lessons pretty well so reversing a one-time scenario could be pretty hard.
Have you ever
humiliated the guy in public?
He tells you something and you went and tattled. He tells
you something but in a bid to get closer to the mum or sister, you spoiled and
it got back to him. You apologize but at times, the things someone tells you
are just meant to be kept between the two of you.
You are in public and that is when you choose to berate him
like a child; like in front of friends. When you lose someone’s trust that
makes it easier for them to bottle themselves up and not want to talk to you.
You blow things out of
proportion and nag about it
At times you do not have to fix someone or fix anything for
them; sometimes, someone just want someone who can listen and after they are
done talking they just feel a whole lot better. At times, while talking, thy
reach a solution themselves. Not many people are good listeners. Not only men,
but women too. She wants to take over the conversation, query, and point out
mistakes and what not. You need to learn to listen to your man if you want him
to come back and talk to you. Men need that type of support to and they rarely
do it with other men; so if he cannot depend on that from you, ask yourself
where he is getting it from.
Not a lot of wisdom
comes out of your mouth
Choose your words wisely and when you don’t, they come back
to bite you. Even if you are a couple, just be mature and grown up at times so
that someone knows they are not talking to a child. Read a book and know how to
choose your words. Don’t just blurt out anything that comes out of your mind.
At times silence even seems like the best advice as compared to something else
you are thinking of.
You use confidential
details to insult
Usually the coffin of most marriages or relationships;
someone talks to you about their childhood, a mistake, their family or work;
then just one time, you have a disagreement. It goes out of hand and you pick
your arsenals. What they once said. You use it to insult them to hurt them as
much as they hurt you. I bet you, will not be hearing anything from them that
is personal any time soon. Once again, ask yourself where he will get that kind
of shoulder from because it is not from his drinking buddies.
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