4 reasons you need to get married
22 February 2016, 17:01
Nairobi - I look at some people and as young as they are, I feel happy
for them for making the decisions to settle down because they were able to spot
the signs and know it is their time to do so. Young as they are, they did not make
a bad decisions and I am sure someone told them it was the worst decision of
Then there are some people, as old as they are, I wonder why
they are married and why they had to put someone else through all that with
them when they were not ready.
That is when you realize that maturity does not come with
age because some people as they are, you can actually sit them down and tell
them a thing or two. When is the right time to settle down? Is there a
benchmark for it that everyone knows and has; such as when they reach it, they
just make the move? We of course know that this is not true because the case
for a lot of people is regret, wishing they had gone with a different partner
or wishing they had just waited.
When do you know it is now your time to settle down?
When your luck is
finally showing itself
I have a girlfriend, all this time that I have known her,
she has always been in a bad relationship. Always has been with a bad guy, who
treats her badly and she is always moaning her fate. This year on the other
hand has started out well for her. Late last year she met a nice man who also
wants to make the relationship official and more committing. She started
telling me what if he now shows his true colors when I commit or changes. I
told her, then that will be good for you because you caught it without wasting
time but what if he is actually good to you and is the one because you are not
When you see things taking a turn for the better in the
relationship you are in now after making a lot of bad choices then that is a
sign that you have grown up enough to see the good people and pick them. You
have grown up enough to overlook the bad people especially those that look good
on the outside but rotten on the inside. Your subconscious has settled down, it
is telling you, that you are now ready.
More church, less bar
This one happens mostly with men. You just notice that you
have reached that point that you are no longer interested in going to bars to
look at the crops and harvest whichever looks ripe enough for the night. If you
go out, you go have fun and come back-alone! No matter how late you get home,
you want to be early enough to make it for church. Sub-consciously for most
men, they no longer look for women at their hotspots, but they go to places
that are tame enough where they would like to find their partner. A woman he can talk to and not have to
constantly go to the bar with. He does not want someone who will give him
competition when it comes to making an appointment with their weekend joints.
That is why for most men, if he found you at his club for the first time, it
will be really hard for him to take you seriously.
More weekends spent in than out looking for the next event.
You want to raise
your family and you are already thirty
You have no wife yet but you are sure you want a family; so
when you are taking your kids to kindergarten you will be like forty. The math
here is not sitting well. By the time they are going to Campus, you might just
be spending your pension to pay that fee if you did not save well. That is why
they call it family planning. Especially if you are looking to have, more than
two and you are clocking mid-thirties. Time is running out. By the time you
realize it, you will have to pick anyone and have a lacklustre relationship
because you were not wise enough to see it was your time when it presented
You wanted more fun, you figure you had more to offer than
she/ he ever will, you figured you were worth much more; so they went their
be on the lookout for the things that make you uncomfortable. They are
the sign that you have been waiting for but did not come to your liking. By the
time you realize it, you have missed the bus. I am so sorry!
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