4 reasons women fail to commit to their men
17 October 2015, 09:17
Nairobi - Women fail to commit to their men but why?
The best teacher is someone else’s experience
When you are surrounded with people who
have failed regardless of how hard they tried and you know how they did, would
you be willing to put yourself up in the same stakes. They say the best teacher
is experience but the even much better one is when it is someone else’s
experience. You do not need to go through something to know the different ways
it could go wrong. You have grown up seeing the women you are close to being disappointed
and now you are seeing the same things with the women who are around you who
rushed into it too fast. What you think is, let me just work on me first, when
and if the right one ever comes along, I might just know; only after I have
secured myself real tight.
You would rather work on something which you can
control the outcome rather than on something that is completely out of your
Work hard on your career, you become the
best. Work hard at your job; get a promotion or a pay raise. The problem with
relationships is that the outcome is out of your hands because it is not
dependent on you alone but the other person whom you are in it with. You can be
working and working on it. Trying your best to ensure you are a good partner
only for them to wake up one morning and tell you, ‘hey? This is not working
out for me!’ See what I mean?
You can now get the chips without the dip
Long ago it was forbidden to get children
out of wedlock. These days, it is kind of normal and commonplace. Men, admit it
or not, you come with your own types of drama. Most women have opted to get the
chips without the dip. If she knows she can handle raising the child on her
own, take care of herself and the child (-ren), then why does she need you
around. Most fathers are rarely present in their own children’s lives. Most men
forget they have a wife at home or opt for more than one. If I can’t have my
own then I would rather have none at all and stop with the stressing of what he
is up to.That is what is up!
Reality never matches expectation
Who wants to go into something hoping that
even if they do not work for the best at least they work then it does not even
work at all. You want it to work but the partner you end up with is not
interested in making it work with you down the line. That is the fear of most
women. We are not afraid of commitment but of the choice of the person we
choose to commit to. They are in it with you now but how about when it really
matters, will they be there?
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