4 reasons she avoids sex with you
28 September 2015, 16:09
Nairobi - I could say chores and work but at times it goes beyond that
and you know because you have a house help (which you readily and happily
encouraged her to get because you thought to have the groove back) and she says everything is good at work. So what is it?
She is questioning your relationship/ marriage
If the food looks like it has come from a questionable
kitchen and looks like it has roaches in it, I will most definitely not want to
eat it. In the same way, in a relationship you are always encouraged to make
sure even if you get comfortable, ensure that your partner is there with you
every step of the way. If they get left behind, they become lost. That is when
they start having doubts about you. You may not have even done anything drastic
like what we always expect; cheat, adultery or become untrustworthy. It is just
a matter of your partner questioning if you are in the same boat with them.
They will look at the little things, the changes and those small things will
make her question whether she wants to be with you anymore. If a woman is not
there emotionally, she will never be there physically. Ever, and if she does,
the intimacy is usually not there. She does not even care whether she orgasms
or not, she just wants you to get it over with. Does that ring a bell?
She is questioning you as her partner
You are not there for her as the partner she chose so she
loses interest in you as well. Women are not that hard to figure out. Really,
we are not that hard; I am a woman; she is a woman and is most probably rearing
a child of yours without your help. So what makes you think that you are that
hard of a puzzle for her to deal with? It is just a matter of you understanding
your partner and what she needs. Her,
not what you have read about women but her, as your woman; the moment you
forget about your partner and what she needs, she stops prioritizing you and
your needs. Prioritize your woman and she will prioritize you and your needs.
Forget about her then she is also saying fuck
off at the back of her head.
The demands you make on her
Premarital sex is not a good way to go, in the Bible but you
still do it, so let’s stop pretending. We are encouraged to know our partners
intimately because that way, you do not have to start looking for something you
need outside when you should be getting it inside. It is encouraged because you
get to know whether the two of you are compatible. Choose the wrong partner who
cannot satisfy you physically and resentment comes in because they are not
willing to play your type of ball. If from the beginning she was never
comfortable in doing some things it gets to a point she does not care anymore
and will become disinterested in the whole act as well.
Do you court her at all, if ever?
In the beginning, your woman was interested in the physical
side of the relationship because you also fulfilled her emotionally. Get that
out of the picture and she is done. You used to chase her, take her out and
actually talk to her and surprised her with the little things. Now, you do not
even put in the effort because why buy the cow when you are getting the milk.
Well, your cow is thirsty and you have not been feeding it any grass or taking
it to pasture so why should you be getting any milk. What have you done for her
lately? A movie ticket for her and the kids is not it.
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