4 reasons relationships end, apart from cheating
05 April 2016, 21:00
Nairobi - It is not only cheating that ends relationships.
Not acknowledging the
fact that you are in a relationship
I am not saying put it on blast on social media. But as long
as you act like you are single, you are sort of cheating. When you go out, you
don’t want to go to your ‘joint’ with them because you have a couple of people
you like flirting with there and you do not want to lose that. Meeting a new
person and they clearly show you they are interested in you for more so you do
not tell them that you are in a relationship but keep quiet about it so that
you can keep sending each other dirty texts. You want that spice.
It is like the fact that you are in a relationship is a
dirty little secret and on a need to know basis that is why you can keep acting
single. These are the people when you are talking to and tell them what you
want from them, they keep mum. Then one day at your house you see a fishy text
and they tell you, ‘Did I not tell you I had a girl/man?’
No you did not!
Talking to other
people on the side
You are in a relationship but not ‘in’ a relationship. You
are in it, but one foot is already out in case something better comes along.
These days’ people do not even care if you are in a relationship. If you are,
and you are what they want, they will just put themselves in a position to have
you and that is because you allowed it.
It is like you are keeping your options open. These are the
type of people that after one petty argument they tell you they are done and by
next week they are with new people. They were never really in a relationship
Keeping your dating
It is sort of like the social media stunt, you do not put it
up because you are private but because you like receiving those messages. You
know when other people find out, you are out but you like eating your cake and
having it so you keep it open. So that you can continue getting dates, free
food, invites and perhaps meet someone better.
Planning your future
If you know someone is not working out for, then really do
cut them off. Just be single and lonely instead of wasting someone’s time and
keeping them around in case someone better never shows up. That is what a lot
of people do. You know you might just not be with this person under different
circumstances but because you are not sure if you will be making a mistake, you
keep them around. If they are not in your plan, let them know. You would rather
win someone back if they are still single rather than push them aside because
you got someone better.
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