4 reasons men pick their wives
02 June 2016, 14:57
Nairobi - A man said something interesting today, ‘I kept messing up
throughout the whole relationship (They mentioned constant cheating and
financial problems.) So every time I did so, she would take me back and I
realized that I have to stick with this woman.’
When you listen to it, it sounds really good, like at least
this man is doing right by this woman. Until you really think hard about it. In
my head it translated differently. He was picking her because she has learnt to
deal with it and he knows that no matter what he does, he was scot free. So he
was going to have a wife but it was not about being better or trying to do away
with the nonsense. He could still do what he wants and he knows she will not
I was so confused, still am.
You know at times you look at some marriages and you are so
confused and I think this one will be it. I have never tried to understand a
man’s thought processes. This one I did try and I did get it.
He wants the wife
that he knows will put up with anything he does
See this one, he has cheated, she is still here. Maybe still
planning to cheat because they talked about a lot of prayers and he is not good
with money. A man is never too sure of what will happen in the future or what
mess he will create. This one went in with the wrong reasons but for the rest,
they want to know that if he suddenly loses the job or he is no longer the way
you met him-depreciated. He wants to know that you will not leave. That is the
definition of through thick and thin.
Some want the women
that do not break easily
When they tell you marriage is not for the young at heart,
they do not mean age but how emotionally strong are you? You need to handle
anything and everything at the drop of a hat. Not the type that runs away every
time there is a problem. Or the one,
that starts crying and acting temperamental on the non-issues. You need to be
that girlfriend that shows some level of maturity and knows when to react and
not when to react. It is not about bickering over everything. That is what is
called nagging. (I am not saying theirs were non-issues. That woman is a
commando at heart.)
The lady that knows
how to handle herself
She is the one that is going to raise the children, maybe
even alone. Things happen. He wants to know that even if he is not there, she
will get up, dust herself off and do what needs to be done. Not many women are
able to do that by the way. If he dies, she is in a deep mess and so are the
No man wants to marry
a woman that cannot handle his family
This couple was old. They were having a wedding at man: 46,
woman:39 . Kenyans have it fixed the other way around. You all rush to marry at
a young age with someone you do not really know only for show. Why? People
settle down together, live with each other, and raise the kids; then when they
are comfortable, have the big wedding; to celebrate their life together and
appreciate that they made it work.
Anyway, this couple was old. The point is, the lady had met
and dealt with the family. She has learned to accept them.
No man wants to keep running around listening to gossip
about what the sister did or why she does not like the mother and has to keep
being a referee.
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