4 reasons marriage is not for everyone
04 September 2015, 19:01
Nairobi - In the race to see who gets a ring on their finger and beats
the others to the race; I am of the opinion that majority, not even some, but
majority of us are simply not made for marriage. It is that simple, you just
need to accept that fact and that way prevent making someone else miserable for
the rest of their lives.
Just like I missed on classes as to how to properly draw my
eyebrows, there are people who missed classes on what actually makes marriage
work. We all do not go into that institution hoping that it does not work, do
You can never serve two masters at the same time
You would like to think that you can, but you cannot. There
is also a reason they say the two people become one but most people forget that
once the preacher is done with that statement. You have to place your spouse
above every other person. How you treat your spouse is a reflection of you. You
cannot put your family, brother, sister, mother or father before them. Clinging
onto your family in efforts to please them and forgetting your spouse is always
a recipe for your marriage not working out.
You do not treat your partner with any compassion
Your spouse is not an angel or a god but human like you. You
need to allow them room to err and make mistakes. You cannot expect them to be
perfect all in the name of; they know you so they are meant to understand what
they cannot do. You have to have a lot of tolerance while going into marriage.
If you expect people to act according to your expectations and want to
influence everything they do, then you are already failing. It never works.
You have to be mentally ready
Marriage does not make anybody mature but mature people are
the ones that make a good marriage. For the simple fact that they will be the
only see a good spouse when they see them. They will appreciate the good in
them and appreciate what they were able to find in a room full of people. If
you do not appreciate what you have then believe me, you will not respect them,
be loyal to them and you tend to be condescending because you will always
think;’ I could have done so much better.’
You need to know you will lose me and have to have an ‘us’
Amen to independence and being able to have your own
interests but in the end you have to have something that the both of you share
in. Being selfish is a marriage will not help you survive but make the marriage
lose. You have to consider, if my partner did this to me would I feel good? If
someone talked this way about me to them, would I be okay with it. That gives
you an inch of how to actually respect them.
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