4 reasons I shun marriage
21 December 2015, 19:15
Nairobi - Marriage at times is a hard task. This is why.
Relatives that ask for
Need I say more? You have a job; we are part of your budget.
You married into our family; we are your budget. We are moving up the ladder? We are moving as well. These are the ones that
once they know where you work, they just show up and you are caught unawares
like…blank. Totally blank.
They feel like they can be part of a decision just because
you allowed them to stay with you. They now feel like family is family and if
they live with you, they have a right to make a comment that should be taken
into consideration. What about the ones that want to involve themselves in a
conversation when they hear you talking…eavesdropping nonetheless. They also
feel so put out when you give them an annoyed glance because they are
The ones that show up
with no invitation and without letting you know beforehand
I am not talking about the events but the ones that come at
ungodly hours and without letting you know.
Here you are; you have planned for cheap breakfast and
supper and no lunch during the week. Sturungi, mkate ama uji…then no lunch for
the day and supper is Ugali and sukuma but now because you have a guest you
have to make fancy stuff like nyama na Ugali and chai for breakfast. People
just never learn why you are angry. It is not because they came but because the
economy is bad and you had already set up for it. Sleeping arrangements maybe
because you have no room; have I mentioned that come for extended stays that
end up with, ‘Bado sijatumiwa pesa ya transport’ for a whole month or two. The
worst part is when they do not feel uncomfortable but you do.
The ones that come for
the holidays and pick clothes
I once had a friend that told me any time they had a
gathering at the house, her father will lock the doors and the party will
happen outside. The dad is luhya and with luhya relatives you know what
happens. Every time they came, they would borrow clothes in pretense that it
was cold or they had nothing to change into but the clothes would never come
back. Same goes for household appliances and they get to pick the good stuff.
Her dad got tired because they are a lot of relatives and thus so many items
and clothes he has to replace; all parties got transferred outside and in an
hour you could all leave afterwards otherwise, no party at his house. Wasn’t
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