4 reasons he is ignoring you
30 April 2015, 15:37
Nairobi - I will be honest and admit it might have happened a couple
of times to me too. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, no matter how
beautiful you think you are there will be that someone or someones that do not think you are all that you think you are.
In my case it might have been one time, I was sitting with a
friend of mine and we saw a particularly good looking man, I was the one with
my tongue out she was less than concerned. On a dare, she told me to go and ask
for that man’s number. After a couple of minutes which felt like hours, sweat
dripping from my forehead, blurred vision and intense negotiation of what to
say and how to sit… also how to smile (not too broad and look like the joker
but serenely), off I went. At the end of that traumatizing experience, I had
the number in hand and quickly started daydreaming of our date. I was very
I should mention, it did not pan out and do you know, I
ignored a particularly good looking man who looked normal and not clownish all
in the name of being loyal to a man I had yet to go out on a first day with
(mental donkey kick on my behind). I still regret that decision to this day
because I lost out on a potentially good guy because I had just gotten a number
from some other person. Female loyalty can be a crutch.
Side-note to you ladies, never do that to yourself. Until a
man proves himself to you, you have the right to entertain that next man too.
So why did he ignore me after that, I called and we had a
couple of very mundane two second discussions of how he was at work or the
network was bad. I am a girl who quickly takes a hint and not look too
He was never really interested in the first place
This happens mostly when you are the woman and you approach
the man because some men said, it is a turn on when a woman has the guts to
approach you. At times, most times it does not work as you might know.
To save you embarrassment or an awkward conversation of him
saying no, he just gave you the number or the card but planned not to entertain
you. It is that simple. So stop sending 100 texts and calling 30 times a day
and leaving voice messages. He is just not interested.
It is bad when you put yourself 100% in something. You are
convinced he is also legitimate. You flirt intensely, send each other very bad
texts, you make plans on what you will do when you meet. That is the problem
with phones because they took out all that intensity that used to be involved
with the long wait. Waiting until you saw someone so that you can have an
When you keep talking about it over the phone at times it
just wanes and interest is quickly lost. If you see the signs please read them
and save yourself some agony.
You are the last person on his mind
People who are into you and having something with you will
keep you at the forefront and if you are not first you are somewhere on their
list. At which point, he will get to you. On the other hand, when you are going
out of your way and he is not concerned it is simply because he does not care
About you, what you want what you think, what you have been
doing the whole day… he could care less!
People will ignore you when they are cheating
Maybe you called when the wife was
around or texted while she was sat close by. Maybe you were that last minute
state of confusion of him thinking whether he could pull it off without the
wife finding out. Or maybe conscious thought came knocking. People who cheat
will ignore you because at the end of it they realize you are not worth it or
they simply cannot keep up with your demands.
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