4 reasons he does not want sex
16 March 2016, 22:27
Nairobi - He does not want sex. Why? Here's why.
The kids’ factor- You are just a mum now!
New mothers already have a lot to contend with and after
that they suffer anxiety as to whether they would ever be able to get back on
that intimate side of things. First of all, to clear this up for a lot of men,
no, the size of a baby’s head does not render the vagina into being whatever
you want to call it. It is programmed to go back to its initial state.
As bad as it sounds, kids can really ruin a couple’s sex
life. For men, especially if you are on the third, you just start seeing your
wife as a mother and nothing else. It is worse when he also starts calling you,
‘Mum!’ because he does not know what else to call you around the kids. It goes
from mental and is practiced in the physical as well. That is why you are asked, kindly-I am also
asking kindly and not berating you-to try be sexy. Just the normal stuff, don’t
give up on your appearance, you can still dress sexy with a slight tummy, smell
nice and keep your hair neat. You don’t have to smell of kids vomit and look
angry all the time.
Sex has sort of become lackluster between the two of you
I will blame both parties on this one. It is not women alone
that should try spice things up; men should too. But as a lady, when you are
the first to spot the decline, start working on it and trying to revive it.
Obviously it is harder to be spontaneous with a growing family and 8-7 work
hours but I am sure you can find something- a weekend or an hour works fine.
Men can also be insecure about their bodies
For men, when they spot a belly on them they congratulate
themselves on how well they are living and why men with bigger bellies have
greater sex lives rather than stress about it like women; but not all men. For
some, they will get uncomfortable about it and that might lead to less
initiation on their part because he is now also thinking your mind is on it as
well. So it might just be up to you to initiate things.
Other things on his mind
Work, money, and bills-need I say more? It is not you. It
might be all these.
Don’t be scathing with your corrections or how you want
things or how someone has never satisfied you; especially if you are married to
them. You might end up sex less.
is just not in the mood!
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