4 reasons children should not sleep with their parents
04 May 2015, 17:38
Nairobi - Not! In fact after the child reaches that 6month mark, they should be trained to sleep on their own.
We will excuse the couple that stay in a bedsit but not so much either. When we say family planning we are not talking you plan short term where you are worried about Pampers the next day meal, we are also talking long term: where is the child going to sleep? Unless you practice chastity in your relationship and only get together for procreation, you have no business sharing a bed with your child.
They are not as innocent as you might think. Even at that age, their senses are working correctly- I will remind you of them in case you were not paying attention in class!
Sight- To see you when you are undressing.
Touch- To feel when your arm is where it should not be in the dark.
Hear- I feel that this is self-explanatory.
Smell- This is also self-explanatory. The last one is not so involved; taste. Children are even more intuitive and perceptive while they are young as compared to when they are adults. That is why the old school generation had those bed sheets hanging between their bed, the living room and the children’s space. It was not to be creative in décor but it served a purpose. To preserve your mind. They could not afford bigger living spaces but they knew custom should be maintained. Some of you do not respect that.
Then again, the main reason for writing this article. There are some people, it is not about meagre space but them being stupid. Especially the women.
I will understand that after giving birth majority of the women go through postnatal depression. They will not want any interaction with the husband so they keep the child in the bedroom for months. Others take it a little bit further to years.
If you have room in the house it is even better to move yourself in that other room with the child rather than bring the child where your husband is sleeping to curtail his attentions. Do not deny it, a lot of you women do this and in the long run, whet ends up happening is you and your husband carrying on while the child is in bed. Why?
You are thinking that the child is asleep but they are not with all that jostling that goes on no matter how small you might think it is. It is not. That is why a lot of the new age children know more than they really should. You sit down asking yourself where they learnt all that forgetting that you kept the child in your bed up until the age of two.
Children never forget, there are some things I saw at a very young age that I can still remember; very fresh by the way. It creates a very disturbing image in my mind when I allow it to.
If you do not want your man’s attentions, talk to him or leave that room with the child. It will cause a fight but do not use your child as a barrier. It never works and you know it.
If you want your man’s attention’s and you are in a bedsit with one bed. Get creative but not on the same bed with the child. Do not put the child on the floor in a shoal. Since YOU did not plan, you go on the floor.
If the child needs to feed at night, feed the child and put him or her back in their bed.
Bottom line is, do not bring the child back to bed with you and create a habit.
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