4 reasons Kenyan relationships end quickly
19 October 2015, 19:03
Nairobi - Kenyan relationships end quickly. But why?
We seek to fix from outside rather than with the person we
What I mean is, people no longer are interested in fixing a
bad situation with the person they are with but would rather seek satisfaction
and solace from someone and with someone else outside. Bored with sex? Get a
side plan that takes care of that every weekend. Partner does not talk to you
anymore? Let me talk to that guy who is a great listener. Someone is acting
out. Well, they have no idea I have a secret apartment where I will go for a
certain work trip. Until you get bored and the rollercoaster goes on and on
until someone finds out they are carrying something or someone is pregnant and
it is not your wife.
Yesterday I told a story of how someone I know is being
dogged out by a certain ‘gentleman’. It is not that she has to be with this guy
neither is it because she does not have options. She has an option only that he
does not own a plane or drive a Land cruiser so he losses against the other
guy. Everyone knows that this guy wants her but it seems she has a hard on for
men who only have money and they always end up messing her up, she swears off
men until the next one. She told me she just does not feel attracted to this
other guy. That is code for I am only sexually attracted to you if you have
money. These days’ people are satisfied as long as you can provide them with a
certain lifestyle. Everything else is secondary, love and trust and honesty and
respect are all secondary as long as a cheque comes in. The problem with her
though is she does not even get that, so I am usually left there like, ‘so what
are you doing?’
We are always in a hurry
We have a plan and we want it now and we do not care if the
person we are with, circumstances or the situation works in its favor. Everyone
has problems, so what if we have some too? It will not make us the first, we
will figure it out. Let us just get it done and over with so that we can move
on to something more important.
My way or the high way
Relationships are short lived not because we have become
more fickle, actually maybe we have. But more importantly we are all too busy
looking for someone who meets the criteria that we have already set out. It is
no longer about chances but vetting processes. That is why someone can end up
having more than 20 ‘new’ friends just in a year. You don’t do this? You are
out. You do not agree to this? You are out. Until you meet someone who meets
the bare minimum at least.
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