4 reasons I can never be a housewife
27 October 2015, 18:43
Nairobi - My younger sister used to have a dream; finish school, find
a husband, get married, have children and be a housewife. She looks at it this
way; she has lived through enough
‘hard work’ and she is done. She has not even cleared university yet and I am
pretty sure she still has the same dream. I asked her what she was going to do
for money, she told me she will have something set up but it is not going to be
that serious. I think life has not yet happened to her not even for her but to her. Wait until it does, she will be
dancing a different tune.
Reality check comes in different ways. I prefer not to have
to experience it but learn through another’s experience so that I can avoid it.
Let me explain the stress of just being a housewife with
nothing else going on in your life.
You have no life
You think it is only going to get hard after the kids go to
high school or leave? You do not have to wait that long. As soon as they are
three or four going to kindergarten, you will be left waiting for them to clock
in. My sister has this idea that she will also have a house help. Fine, nothing
wrong with that; all the new age house wives are thinking the same. Thing is
you fall into a cycle that will not hit you at the first, second or third year
but the fourth. Frustration kicks in and you start wondering how you can
‘contribute’ and help the husband. You have been out of work for so long you
are basically unemployable then you start being moody at home and stressing
everyone else. That is when you start realizing that you made an erroneous
decision because outside of your husband and children, you have nothing else
going on for you.
Your husband will actually forget you are his partner
I am not talking about affairs. It does not have to get that
far. Once you fall into a role with someone it is pretty hard for them to
change your job description. He will not come to you to help him make the
bigger decisions. Your decisions will be what is for dinner, what school to
take the children or if this tie matches that shirt. When it comes to his work
or business and what not he will go talk to someone else about it because you
do not understand this things. Either because you have never worked before or
you have been too long out of the market. It starts that way and soon enough
you do not even know anything that is going on with him because he has a friend
he talks to about such things.
It will be very hard to be a part of your husband’s life
Apart from hosting the odd occasion or accompanying him to
one, you will actually even then be out of place. He will be with his peers
talking about what the current issues are. You can read a paper to get out a
line but if you are not living it, it will never matter. Yours will be know
when to speak and when not to. That is when you go to a dinner and do not get
the joke everyone is laughing at or you have no idea what they are talking
You get reduced to very meaningless things
Wake up, make breakfast, prepare the kids for school, go
back home and wait for them to get back, make dinner and wait for the husband
and repeat; weekends as well. This will cause a breakdown just because of
frustration. If you have no idea where to start and how to start you will
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