4 questions women ask themselves before marriage
25 February 2016, 14:04
Nairobi - You know as much as you tell people not to date the wrong
person, they are still going to; thinking they are just passing time or they
are the ones that are going to change them. Then they eventually marry that
person and complain about that person. No one forces you to marry anyone (we
are excluding forced marriages here because someone was just about to mentally
correct me-you all know what I mean).
Are they good for you
and to you?
If what you are dealing with at the moment is not nice, then
I can assure you are still going to suffer the same if not worse. We always
look at worst case scenario when we are thinking of committing to someone, that
way when it gets better, you give yourself a pat on the back. But if you are
not enjoying whatever the two have now then marriage is going to put further
strain on it and if they are not the ones you want to experience marital hardships
with, then leave them be; unless you are into experiencing difficulties in
Are they emotionally
healthy and stable or the opposite
Like I have already mentioned marriage just has a way of
questioning whether you were sane while picking to settle with someone. You
need someone who is strong emotionally and is able to face difficulties with
you. If you have a spouse that throws tantrums, cries at the most little and
stupid things and is someone who needs you to be there for them 24/7 then you
are setting yourself up. That is what you will be dealing with constantly and
it will be like you are babysitting. You will be the only adult in the
relationship to handle the kids, and any other difficulties.
Are you hoping to
I hope you are not. Also refer to the aforementioned
scenarios. Don’t marry someone hoping to change them or that marriage will
change them. Someone you are with needs to be at their best or trying to for
you. If they are not, then they care less about you and what your opinion of
them is. That is not a good sign from a spouse.
Do you always have to
check on them or follow them around for them to do their part?
Definitely not a good sign because what you will be gaining
is a child and not a partner. You do not want to go into marriage already
seeing yourself nagging someone even for the family needs. Do you doubt their
loyalty to you and have to be FBI every time they leave? Also not a good sign
for you; you need to be secure in a relationship and if a partner does not give
you that, then you are in trouble. Where
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