4 questions to always ask while dating a new person
05 May 2016, 21:09
Nairobi - If someone asks you to be exclusive to them while they get
to know you, then there are things you should not apologize for wanting them
and in expecting them. When someone wants to date you, they should date you
properly and not make you question yourself especially if they asked for
exclusivity. Otherwise, you could just let them be and move on with another
person who is ready to do the best of what they can for you.
Asking for them to
You should not even be asking. Obviously, people have lives
and work but when someone chooses to ignore you and make it look like you are
annoying them or chasing them, they are letting you know something-they are not
the one. If they want to date you, they should do it properly and not make you
look stupid when they go silent for days up until you look for them, then they
tell you, ‘I have been busy.’ If you are too busy for someone, then you are not
ready to be with them.
Men do not like questions. I do not know what kind of
conversations they like having because once, someone told me, ‘Not even my
mother asks me this many questions. You are invading my personal space.’
What? First of all, you are trying to invade my other very personal space and maybe put something
in there that will rip it to shreds; I should have a right to know who you are.
Secondly, I am not your mother. You are trying to date me. Dating has become so
confusing it is like people want to talk about what they are watching and then
get right down to it. Before you invade my personal
space, I will ask you what I need to know.
If you are not ready to have sex, a good person, you should
be in a relationship with, will not make you uncomfortable about it but respect
your decision. If you are not ready to offer husband/wife (cleaning, cooking,
money) duties to a person who has not shown signs of committing, it is your
Wanting to know
Do you know some of you are dating someone’s husband and you
have no idea because you are assuming that only single people ask people out?
Wait until the wife comes and teaches you a lesson. You have never heard of
women eating grass. Do. Not. Assume.
Kenyan men can have more than one wife, if a man asks you
out for a date, you better ask. He might be married and looking for a second
one. If that is not your portion, get away. Don’t start asking stupid questions
like when he will divorce her. The
simple answer is, he will not, he will just add you to the equation. Men are
not stupid especially if the wife is an asset- no, not of money but because of
smarts, intelligence and what she does for him and his children. You, if you
are just there because you have a nice behind, you are not an asset.
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