4 marriage killers named
14 April 2016, 18:00
Nairobi - In a perfect world, marriage would indeed only be between
two people but that is not the case. There are always a lot of people who take
center stage in a lot of couples’ relationship and that makes them privy to
everything that goes on from within.
It can be pretty hard for a young couple to deal with and
what ends up happening is that one partner is completely sidelined making them
wish they had never gotten in the union in the first place but chose somebody
There can be the mother to the wife that has an idea how
much better the marriage would work if only her daughter listened to her. Then
there is the mother to the husband who mostly does not think any woman
including you is good for her son. If the both of you as a couple do not know
how to establish boundaries without alienating either one then the two of you
are in trouble.
Wives should learn to tell their mothers that her marriage
is not her mothers. If you allow your mother to practice transference in your
house, you are setting yourself up.
Husbands should learn how to make their wives feel like she
comes first because at the end of the day you cannot marry your mother. When
your wife feels special to you then you will not have a problem with her no
matter how much drama your mother brings. That is always the trick-being her
The friend to the wife
There is always that one friend that can be trouble. Not all
friends are bad but not all women k now how to choose their associations. You
listen to the wrong people and they feed your ear the wrong way. She will not
tell you that she misadvised you because she was mad at her own man. She will
keep quiet and you will carry that issue to your own house without knowing.
Know how to pick advice; everyone has something to tell you
but it is only you who can be wise enough to know that this will not work for
you and your house.
The friend to the
That one- the one that the wife never liked; he always pops
up. He can be married but living like he is a Casanova and he can be a bachelor
living like he co-owns a brothel. He is the one that you are not sure of when
it comes to support for your marriage. When he calls your man you just start
worrying even if he says they are going for an honest drink. It is only your
man that can be able to draw boundaries when it comes to this friend. You
cannot do anything. He can save him as someone else and they can go meet
outside of town. What will you do? Only your man can sort this one out.
Siblings from both sides
of the couple
There are relatives and then there are siblings. If your
spouse’s siblings do not know how to handle themselves, then you really are in
trouble. The ones that want to stay over for a life time, borrow money and if
you do not give you are a black sheep. Wait until they tell the mother that
does not like you. Then there are one’s that carry their whole family to
‘visit’ you. They bring their own issues to your house and you really cannot
chase them out. Siblings can ruin a young marriage very easily and the worst
part is when someone tells you about family and blood. At times you have to
know that family can really not be good for you.
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