4 manners your children MUST learn from you
18 September 2015, 18:29
Nairobi - Children have nowhere else they learn things from in their
younger age other than from what they see at home. Sure, there is the odd
relative or family gathering they interact with but how they relate to them is
mostly how you relate with each other at home. Happy wife, happy home! Happy
wife, happy home, happy kids and so happy you (the man); and vice versa when it
comes to the husband as well.
When couples are dealing with each other, they forget about
the children. You assume that because they are doing their homework they will
not hear the banging doors or when you are giving each other silent treatment,
they are not uncomfortable. How you relate with each other that is how your
child might just end up relating to you because that is what they are learning
Handling disagreements, arguments or confrontation
Silent treatment, when one partner picks on the other,
shouting at each other, throwing tantrums; if that is how you do it then do not
be surprised when you are called to school. Do not be angry at them because
they are doing the same things you are doing. Let your child learn how to deal
with arguments the proper way. Teach them how to sit down, listen and talk to
the other person (kid) and you will be a happy parent because they will do the
same with you.
How marriage works
The morals of marriage are learnt best from parents. We grow
but they stick with us. If you are hoping for your child to have an amazing
experience with their partner in the future, then take a look at your marriage.
Is that what they are seeing in yours or are they getting a negative feedback.
What you do to your partner might just be how they treat them as well.
Respect in any relationship they ever have
Not just boy-girl relationship but with any person that they
ever encounter. Do you show respect to your partner? What they do? Do you
appreciate them or take them for granted? Your child will also take you for
granted. So do not be angry at them but reflect on how you treat the father or
mother of your child.
If your relationship is fickle and you keep breaking up then
getting back together, then your child is learning how not to put too much
pressure to themselves when it comes to committing to things. They are learning
that when things get hard, are no longer attractive, lose to hold their
attention and not interesting, then they can just dump it and look for
something else. If homework is hard, don’t do it. If chore is tedious, don’t do
it. If saving money and want to eat it today, just go ahead and eat it. No pressure at all.
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