4 male tips for the single lady
10 March 2016, 19:01
Nairobi - Normally when I read about a certain lady having difficulty
choosing between two or more men; I look at myself and wonder if there is
something wrong with me. I never have such ‘difficulties’
in life. In fact, most of the time I barely have one yet there is a lady
somewhere beating off ten of them at the same time.
I might not even be
the best one to help her decide which one to finally settle on. But I might be
clearheaded enough to help her see the better qualities of the one that is
right for her; for any lady actually. Truth is, after a long time of being
single; you just reach a point and realize you need to start being serious with
yourself and your relationships.
Someone who is
thinking as you are
The fact that you have chosen to settle down means that you
want something serious; we are not thinking marriage already but at least if it
is going to be something, it has to be with someone that is taking it to be
You do not want someone who is only around to toy with you.
In your itinerary, there is obviously going to be that someone who is not ready
and who is still figuring what they want-nothing wrong with that. You just need
to stay away and pick the one that is showing they will pick you every day.
Look at their
strengths and faults alongside and against yours
Woman to woman-never make a decision thinking you are going
to change someone. You can grow together but you cannot change someone. Take
each candidate as they are now and what they have always shown you. Look at
yourself too and choose the one that compliments your weaknesses and faults
best. Don’t lie to yourself about picking someone worse than you are so that
they do not pick on you or your issues. You need a partner that will stop you
in your tracks every now and then and tell you when you are wrong.
How does either of
them make you feel?
Sexual and intimate mutual attractions are very important.
Tell that to someone and they will tell you how they come last in a
relationship but wait until someone cheats and you ask them what the cause was.
You did not think that was important and you only though of the important issues first. If you feel no
attraction for someone, then leave them off the list. You need to know how to
balance your choices because you do not want to have something to later
complain about or betray someone for.
Don’t think you are
smarty enough to have your cake and eat it as well.
You can also decide to keep them all until you get tired. You
will eventually get caught and lose them all.
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