4 keys to failed sex
30 June 2015, 11:42
Nairobi - Maybe saying no one is pushing it, let us just say, the good
catch avoids you like a plague as soon as they smell you. No, smell your
Do I have an attitude? I hope not. If it is one that makes people
not want to be around me, I would hope that I do not have it and so does
everybody else feel the same way. Especially when it comes to my dating life
and relationships, I hope I do not have an attitude. I hope I am a very open
minded person but not too open minded that I would go around being desperate
for clown men.
You have a bad attitude if
You think you are the greatest thing since a loaf of bread
We all have this one to some extent. We only play it
differently. There is that guy who you really like that will never see it and
there is that one that you will make run circles around you because you think
he is not worth your time. But the worst is usually if you carry it with you to
all your dates, like a diva! You cannot eat this, cannot do that cannot be seen
this place and be seen with some people. You have demands of a Louboutin when
you are/ look like that Ngoma rubber shoe
that came in the 90s.
You do not respect the other person’s time and schedule
We could have gone with respect, period! But that usually
has to be earned. We are talking about someone who arrives on dates 3-5 hours
later and does not feel like it is wrong. It is okay to try and beat Nairobi
traffic but when you are making the date put that into consideration especially
if it is a coffee or lunch date. People have things to do with their time
unless the both of you are idlers then you can arrive whenever you want. But do
not do it in the name of, ‘a man/ gentleman will show me appreciation by
waiting as long as I get to arrive!’ That is not appreciation but disrespect of
the other person, which leaves a bad impression every time you do it to the
We can give allowances to people living in the Rongai
diaspora but I try to be punctual. Actually I am a very punctual person.
You do not reciprocate
One good turn deserves another. In a man’s case, you require
a couple of good turns before you are accepted in her graces. I am not talking
about counting number of days to sex! Some women take it for granted that their
date treats them nicely, with respect, with courtesy and consideration. Trust
me, you never want to meet the complete opposite of that. If you are someone
that keeps poking holes, looking for the negative and keep making demands. But
you never show your appreciation but being the lady that he deserves, then why
should he stick around when he can get better treatment from another woman. Be
careful to see if you push good dates/ suitors by being a bad person to them
because some book told you to act a certain way to gauge his interest.
Newsflash; he will not have read the same book to know that
is what you are doing. He will take it as bad attitude on your part and will
leave. Same applies for the men too. If she treats you nice but you are too
grown to appreciate it then blink twice and she is gone.
Do not pay attention to your dates
Nothing worse than going anywhere with someone who already
looks like they have something stuck up their nether regions. They look bored,
they look disinterested and the most you will get out of them is a nod. Why did
you come then? Why did you agree? Did you not have anything better to do with
your time than waste both people’s time?
If you do not want to go on the date, do not go. Don’t waste
time, effort and that good food with poor conversation, no humor and lack of
proper listening skills with wandering eyes and attention. What that simply
communicates is that you will do the same in a relationship and no one wants to
deal with that.
Bad attitude comes in a lot of forms but I am sure whatever
I have omitted, you can spot it out in yourself. The best thing you can do if
you really want to start enjoying yourself is take it out of the equation. And
everyone will have a much better time and look forward to the next round.
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