4 common lies about marriage
02 March 2016, 18:59
Nairobi - There are common misconceptions about marriage. Here are a few.
Marriage will change
What marriage does is just solidify your union if you are
actually serious about each other. What it does not do is make the other person
change unless they want to for the better. People change because they want to
not because you want them to. If they think you are worth it, they will. If
they do not think so, then there is your answer.
It will make your
What makes marriage stronger is the two of you, not the
certificate itself or a wedding or the elders. Marriage is only strong if the
two of you fight for each other and to keep each other together. If it is not
working now, take a step back and time from each other. You need it. If they do
not fight for the relationship as you do, then marrying them will not change
You should always
marry someone who is your best friend
Friendship is a good and important thing when you are
committed to someone. Someone you can have fun with or laugh with is good but
let’s be honest, some of us need someone who can knock (not literally) some
sense into us because we have a tendency to go out of hand. What you need in
marriage is someone you can rely on especially when you know your weaknesses
and they can step in. You do not want kids to suffer from your bad decisions.
Friendship is good but an adult is also important.
Look for your soul
Now this is a lie. I don’t know who came up with it but
looking back and thinking an ex was your happy ever after is dooming yourself
especially if they moved on. You broke up for a reason, keep it that way and
avoid the grief.
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