4 break up signs
02 March 2016, 14:06
Nairobi - Why is your relationship on the rocks. Here's 4 reasons why.
How to deal with in
In-laws are all parties that have come with your spouse-all
parties-that includes the parents. Most of the time we tend to overlook the
influence that most parents carry with them when they interfere with the
child’s marriage. When it all turns sour, they do not want to be in sight but
point fingers. Beware of a spouse that runs to the parents in the first sign of
trouble. Beware of the one that makes a decision-only after they have consulted
the parent. You and your spouse need to come to an agreement when it comes to
family members coming into your marriage and you should go about it equally.
Do not impose something that you would never consider
imposing to your own unless it is under strenuous circumstances. Be open enough
with your relatives on what they can or cannot do when it comes to you and your
home. Do not duck under the bushes and say your spouse said. Say it is you who
is also saying because you were there when it was being discussed.
Personal time with
The problem as to why most women are now avoiding marriage
or part of it is that, once you are married, it is as if the guy forgets about
you. It is as if, he has compartmentalized you and forgotten about you. It is a
goal he has accomplished and now on to the next one. If that alone time is
important to you, talk about it. If you two are lagging where either of you are
concerned, it will eventually be a problem.
All couples need alone time. If you can no longer stand your
spouse, then you two are in for it and trouble is awaiting for you at the next
bend because it will eventually creep up.
What is acceptable or
a boundary that should no longer be crossed by a spouse
This should in fact be discussed while the two of you are
still dating or engaged not after marriage. Because now the other person will
fell like you are being tyrannical. You should agree on late-nights, what you
cannot tell other people about the spouse or marriage, what you do not want
your marriage to end up like-just anything that will make either of you
uncomfortable or feel alienated in the marriage.
Money, money, money
If you never discussed money, then the earlier the better
because money always has and will always be a problem no matter how much you
feel like you have resolved it. Talk about your bills, talk about whom you
don’t feel comfortable giving money to and talk about spending habits.
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