4 assumptions women always make
21 December 2015, 14:55
Nairobi - There was this time I will not call it a relationship
because it was not yet there, but let’s call it a date. I was on some date with
some guy and while talking he gets a text and decides to respond. So I decided
to be annoying and snatched the phone from his hand-playfully. But then he got
this startled look and it suddenly went and a calm one took its place. He asks
for his phone back so I jokingly ask, ‘texting your girlfriend?’ He responds
with an affirmative. I could not even be angry, I just rolled my eyes and gave
him back the phone and continued eating with a note to self: just because he asks you out does not mean
he is single.
Do not assume that he
is single because he asked you out
Most women do not like asking questions because they do not
want to ruin their chances. How is it a chance if you end up just being
someone’s fling because they are already committed? You do not want to be
annoying and make the guy mad. In the end you end up with nothing when the
man’s woman shows up.
Assuming you are exclusive
just because you went on a couple of dates
So what happens is that, you have set yourself aside for a
particular someone. You ignore everybody else because you are assuming they are
doing the same for you just because you met the sister last week. If you did
not have a conversation, then do not assume someone is not seeing other people
because you choose not to. Then you get mad when you see them somewhere with
someone else; crying how they are cheating on you. How are they cheating if
they were not yours in the first place?
Assuming they are not
If you want to be a second then assume what you want. But
just because someone is out here being a Casanova does it mean that they do not
have a wife they have secreted somewhere. If you are looking for a commitment
and something serious then this is a question you should ask.
Assuming you are in a
Men are never in a hurry especially if they are getting
something without much hard work from them. They enjoy taking their time on
something that is not serious for them if they are just having a good time with
it. So you stay their lurking, two years and you are thinking, ‘this is
serious. He is the one.’ Now you and your girlfriends are already planning who
will walk first down the aisle and what the bridesmaids’ dresses will look
like. ‘When is he popping the question?’ The man is in a full-blown
relationship and he has no idea. This is how people end up crying after two
years because you now ask him for a ring when you were too afraid to ask him if
you were in a relationship in the early stages. Now you are mad because you
have wasted and invested two years on someone. He was never serious with you in
the first place and he already knew you were not the one for him.
See how assumptions ruin it for you? At times it is better
if you look at yourself and ask if it is the other people’s fault when you find
yourself in a situation. Asking hard questions is frustrating and hard but they
get you where you need to be at least even though you do not like the outcome.
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