4 advantages of a long engagement
14 October 2015, 17:34
Nairobi - Perks of short engagement:
you get the whole wedding drama out of the way and get it over and done
with. You do not give each other time to marinate so you properly trap that
person you want before they become clearheaded. I think that is just about it.
People do not like long engagements but they have more perks than you give them
It gives you time and opportunity to think whether this is
what you really want
Someone getting cold
feet is normal but when they keep insisting to push the wedding date further
and further away, let them. You may not like it but they just might have saved
you. You would rather have someone break off and engagement rather than a
marriage that will involve children and your money as well as investments. Some
investment and money decisions you make them because you are married and
thinking together: joint bank accounts, buying property and how you spend-it’s
because you know you have a back up, them.
How well the two of you deal with pressure
Weddings and preparing for them, there is no two such couple
that will agree on everything and spontaneously know what the other has in
their mind that matches what they want. This is for the couples who had a
whirlwind romance and have never lived together. They just decide I have met
the one, so I am ready. Do not rush into
it, everybody is giving you a red flag because they know there is a lot more to
marriage rather than the good times you two are used to when you just go on
dates, events and gatherings.
Use that time to really think about the commitment you are
about to give one person
People never think beyond the good feeling. You are choosing
to wake up to the same face every day. If something happened to them or to you
would they take care of you or they would dump you somewhere and move on with
someone else. If you are a serial cheater, just think of how that other person
will be able to deal with it or be broken by it. How about how it will affect
your children? That up and down of forgiving 70*7 does not work with adultery.
You may end up realizing what you really thought was
important for your wedding, is just a white elephant
In the time/ period you two are prepping, you start
realizing some costs are not worth it because you actually have time to think
on it and take it off the list. On the other hand, short engagement= a lot of
impulse buying cause you are just rushing through a fantasy list. Then after
the wedding you are banging your head on the wall.
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