3 ways to win her back
17 February 2016, 18:12
Nairobi - You have made a mistake. How do you win her back?
Putting your ego aside
and accepting your mistake
I like it when a man apologizes but what he says is, I will
do better but it is hard for him to say, you were right, I was wrong and I hurt
you. But only, I will do better or never do it again. Most of the time he will
not even mention what the ‘it’ was because it is a confirmation of his mess or
mistake. A woman will get touchy when you are always making her apologize or
grovel for the little mistake but when you do it big time; you do not want to
do the same for her.
If you don’t want to do a public apology, then don’t call in
the elders. What you need to do is put your ego aside when apologizing; it will
be easier for her to accept.
You need to show that
you have made an effort
You need to show her that you made a plan and you actually
thought about it. Buying flowers, presenting them and saying the apology will
make her feel like you really did not even have that much to deal with as
compared to her hurt. That is why the apology rarely comes out of her easily or
even afterwards you feel like she bares a grudge against you. You just never
put in much thought into it and you made it look easy for you as compared to
how hard it will be for her to get over whatever you did. Have a plan, make it
elaborate and she will appreciate the apology more. Remember what she likes and
Show you are ready to
commit to your promises
Trust is usually lost when the first time, you promised you
will never do it again but then she keeps handling the same issue. Next time
when it is a completely different mess you are in; don’t think she will be
willing to listen because she already knows of all your broken promises. But
when you mess up and stick to what you promised you would do, the next you do
something else; she will be more willing to forgive.
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