3 ways to tell bad advice
01 December 2015, 17:03
Nairobi - Bad advice is contagious. This is how to avoid it.
They sell you what had been their fantasy
That is what used to be their expectation when it came to
the ideal person and how they expected their relationship or marriage to work.
The time came; they settled or chose a completely different person so they are
giving you advice based on what they assume would have been a better decision
for them. If only they had done this, it could have worked out so you should.
It will not make sense to you because you asked them in the first place since
you like the ideal of what they have. In this case, go with your instinct, if
what you see is what you would like. At times people are just not appreciative
of something when they have it.
They apply what works for them
You go to someone because you assume since they know you,
they will be able to help you. Problem is, they are not even thinking of you
and what you would like but they are thinking, if it worked for me it will work
for them. At least you know they are
genuine because you know it is with best intentions that they are hoping for
you the best that they have. But if you know that you are not like them then it
is best just to listen but make a decision based on what you would like.
They feel terrible talking about their failures and they do
not want to
At times you go to someone because you know what they have
been through and you would like to gain perspective from them from the lessons
they got from their bad situation. They on the other hand would rather feed you
false hopes and make-believe stories. It is best to just leave this one be.
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