3 ways to save your relationship from failing
17 September 2015, 19:18
Nairobi - Relationships fail for various reasons. Here are three ways to ensure yours does not go down that path.
When you focus on the smaller issues and forget the bigger
A lot of
relationships are ruined by very petty issues. You focus as to why your partner
no longer goes to the gym and forget that they recently have opened a personal
business the both of you are eating from. You focus on the fact that your
partner no longer says, ‘I love you’ when they never forget to make sure you
have eaten in the evening even before they get home. They have less time to stay at home,
regrettably but it is because you want your children to go to a certain school,
so they have to work towards that. Every moment you think of pointing out something
small, sit down and think of what your partner has also been doing. If the
answer is nothing then by all means be petty, if there is something then let it
go. The bigger picture is always more important.
Neglecting the foundations that make for a good relationship
and concentrating on the need to just be in one
Relationships are not successful not because you are bad or
they were bad but they were just bad for you. You need to pick someone that is
good for you. Tall, dark and handsome, or petite, light with long hair are
fantastic ideas but you will not eat that, live with that and think with that.
You need to look for someone who understands you, can keep calm when you are
blowing the roof, is there when you need them and is willing to grow with you. Do
not just pick anyone because they happened to be there when you were having
some ‘bright’ ideas.
Focusing on the physical and forgetting about the emotional
and mental that also has to go into it
If you do not work on the latter trust me, the physical will
never work. That is why people cheat and you look at the person they cheated
with and you wonder what they were thinking. That is because they were actually
thinking. It is mental and emotional to get someone to want to be physical with
you. If you cannot stimulate and engage your partner mentally and emotionally
then forget about having sex, you will not be getting it any time soon.
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