3 ways to save your marriage
14 April 2016, 19:16
Nairobi - Is your marriage struggling? Here are 3 ways to help save it.
Don’t bring your
stressful work life back home
When you come home and you do not talk to the people you
meet there, even with just a small greeting before you climb up and shut yourself
in the bedroom or sit on your favorite couch; what does that communicate? You
They might have not done something but they will think they
have and if they are sure they have done nothing then they will excuse
themselves as well from your presence. No matter what is going on with your
work or business or someone that is not in your home; just leave it behind and
do not bring it to your house. It not only puts your spouse on edge but if you
have children, them as well. Do this for a couple of months and that is how you
end up with a family that does not want to interact with you.
Play a positive part in making your marriage a safe haven.
Don’t be too selfish
by wanting more alone time for yourself and less of their company
Some people take that alone time too far. You left for work
in the morning, you get home very late and if you get home early, you shut
yourself in a room until dinner time before going to bed. If you did not want a
spouse, why did you choose to be with one? You should have exhausted ll the
alone time you wanted and not be with someone only to make them feel unwanted.
Granted, there is such a thing as personal space but make
some time as well to talk and be with your spouse. Don’t make them feel like a
tool because that is how it starts.
Be open to the idea
that maybe if things have gotten to this bad place you might have to make drastic changes
In your schedule, the way you approach them, the way you
communicate and the way you express what you want. You see a relationship where
one partner walks out when the other comes in, they have had communication
issues for a while. If you get too aggressive someone will not want to talk but
wait for you to finish for them to leave. If they spend less time with you and
have created an environment where you are not needed; it is because you were at
some point too busy for them.
Now the one time you are around, you want them to be
available. Well, they are not.
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