3 ways to save your falling relationship
07 September 2015, 21:39
Nairobi - Is your relationship on the rocks? Here are some tips to save it.
Talk to your partner,
like really talk to your partner.
If two people can never really know how to communicate to
their partner then they do not know that they really do not understand each
other. That is the beginning of all problems. Most people think that by going
silent, banging doors, space and forgetting the problem then coming back and
acting as if it did not happen fixes things. It does not and that is why you
keep going back to the problem every time an issue comes up. You remind them,
you remember when you did this or that. Hash it out so that the both of you
understand where the other is coming from.
expectations never match reality
Going into a relationship, everyone has their own idealistic
views of what their partner should be and how they should act. The problems
comes in when you pick out everything your partner does and keep telling them
how they have failed you and how they deceived you. Yes, they said they would
be good to you and treat you right but at times, their best does not match your
best. You need to understand your partner and know how they treat what they
value. If they are doing their level best then you need to start learning to
appreciate that because that is when they stop all together and now you have to
start fixing it to bring it all back.
You need to learn to
apply SWOT in your life, your relationship.
O-Opportunity and T-Threats.
What makes you stronger as a couple? Keep maintaining and
improving on that. What makes you weak as a couple? Either work your way around
them, figure out a way to avoid them: petty confrontations, constant bickering
just because, jealousy and possessiveness and making your partner feel less of
what they are. Opportunities are those things you are overlooking or taking for
ranted but when you could actually pay attention to them, it would make you
stronger and better: spontaneity, hobbies, personal interests that took a back
seat, anything new and different. Threats, these are self explanatory depending
with what your partner might do if you were not there. Other women or men,
cheating, materialism and spending habits, alcoholism and late nights; these
are what get you to where you are now. Wanting to fix things.
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